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I can't cope with my 3yos terrible sleep anymore

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Mamabear04 · 28/01/2023 04:51

DD turned 3yo a couple of months ago. She was such a good sleeper until she reached about 2.5yo and started waking to go to the toilet at night. We thought this was brilliant and took her out of nappies and she's been completely potty trained since. She's had a few big changes in that we now have a 6mo but things have settled and she is happy now with sibling. She started nursery last week and is not settling well at all, it's really stressful for her (and us seeing her so upset). Tonight she has woke 5 times screaming saying she needs a pee. She's only peed 3 times. We don't live in a big house and when she screams she wakes the baby. I've tried limiting drinks before bed, putting a potty next to her bed (she refuses to get out of her herself and will scream until someone comes to help and has now started refusing to go herself during the day), we've tried going to her every time she needs and not talking making it as boring as possible and putting her straight back to bed. Hasn't worked. The nursery have said she went to the toilet like 4 times in the space of 3 hours one day. I think it's definitely an anxiety thing and I don't know what to do or how to help her. DH gets up with her the majority of the night as the baby is feeding on average twice a night. We are all exhausted and at breaking point. What can we do? Please help us!!!!

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RedHelenB · 28/01/2023 06:08

Has she got a uti?

Mamabear04 · 28/01/2023 07:08

No I've took her to the GP last month and tests came back negative. She did have an ear infection a couple of weeks ago and went back to the GP a few days ago but ears are not infected.

After waking us up 6 times in 8 hours I had a chat to her this morning and after lying about certain things, we've come to the conclusion that she's jealous of me going to the baby during the night. How do I navigate this? I'm bloody exhausted and we're going for a family nap in an hour. I want to cry!

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Mamabear04 · 28/01/2023 16:19

Bump

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LemonDrizzlecake12 · 28/01/2023 16:22

Did the docs send the sample off to the lab or just dipstick it? Really sounds like a UTI to me too.

Mamabear04 · 28/01/2023 16:28

Dipstick it. She had a temperature of 38.1 this morning. Going to take her back to the GP on Monday morning but I honestly feel like they are just not listening to me! I don't know what to do!!!

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Redredrobingoesbobobbobin · 28/01/2023 16:36

Def check for a UTI.
Also, if she feeling anxious can she have some special time with you when you can (when DH can have baby) to ease anxiety.
If she’s feeling jealous of you going into Baby to feed can you sticker chart it out? I.e. she goes back to waking for a normal wee without screaming, and without doing it multiple times a night, gets a sticker in the morning, and a treat after so many consecutive nights?

and massive hugs. The sleep deprivation when mine were 2.5 and newborn nearly broke us. Xxx

Mamabear04 · 28/01/2023 16:59

@Redredrobingoesbobobbobin I've tried a sticker chart and it didn't work at all. I honestly feel like I spend so much time with her! Whenever DH is about I make an effort to spend 1 on 1 time with her

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Redredrobingoesbobobbobin · 28/01/2023 17:05

Ahhh sorry! That’s always been my go to! X

LemonDrizzlecake12 · 28/01/2023 17:21

They should really send it off for cultures to be grown as she’s so young. When one of mine was younger he had a uti. The dipstick was negative then we got a call a couple of days later and told it had grown a bug at the lab and he needed antibiotics. If she’s got a fever and no other symptoms eg cold / flu etc then I would personally get her seen again asap and try to get to bottom of it, emphasising frequently asking for toilet both at home and at nursery

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