sleep- can't cope anymore

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Ozziesmom · 06/02/2008 02:27

too upset to even go into it too much but am so desperate for help, posted a mesage last month re 8 mnth ds repeatedly turning himself over in night and being unable to turn back and crying. He is awake every night at the moment for about 2 hrs (startd at 1am this morning- 2-4 yesterday. I am getting angry with him and am so tired I can't manage well during the day. I am on my own and have to share a room with him and I simply cannot cope any more, we are both crying as I type and I cnanot do anything to stop this from happenig, I feel like I have tried everything.

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losingitagain · 06/02/2008 02:42

Is there no-one who can help you?

You must be exhausted?

Do you know what is waking him? Could it be something fairly straight forward like him getting a bit chilly?

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Ozziesmom · 06/02/2008 02:51

no just bad habit i think, i feel like i have tried everything this has been going on fro about three months although always a bad sleeper
he is still crying, tried to put him in my bed out of total desperation but he still wouldn't settle so back in his cot, i guess he is now picking up vibes that mummy is thoroughly at the end of it

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losingitagain · 06/02/2008 03:02

I know it's hard. My DS would wake up ALL the time until he was about 17 months old. Then he just started sleeping well. Before that, he's be up 3 - 8 times a night. It's exhausting.

Do you have family nearby? Or a good friend? Maybe someone would stay with him 1 night so you can sleep elsewhere and catch up?

Cumulative sleep deprivation is awful.

MrsJohnCusack · 06/02/2008 03:55

I've recently moved out of the room and DS (now 11 months) sleeps MUCH better with me out of the room
can you try sleeping on a sofa and see if that makes a difference (DH now occupy a sofa each, it's all very inconvenient). I do think some of them get to an age where another person in the room disturbs their sleep - both of mine have been like that

you poor thing. I am a total zombie when the sleeping goes wrong. Could he be teething?

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Ozziesmom · 06/02/2008 20:00

Thanks guys, spoke to GP and health visitor today (through my tears lol) hv coming to see me next week. They helped alot and both advised a form of cc which although I have never been keen on makes alot of sense as it is distressing us both too much this way and sounds less cruel than having him cry for three hrs which happened last night.
am moving in March so he will have his own room then Mrsjohncusak I agree I think it will help alot.....just gotta get through the next few weeks.......!

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Ozziesmom · 06/02/2008 20:00

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MrsJohnCusack · 06/02/2008 22:29

oh good luck and so glad GP and HV helpful

it IS awful, lack of sleep is torture

Sushipaws · 06/02/2008 22:55

Like without sleep makes even the simplest things hard.

I too have a non-sleeper, but I do have a dh to help me out (sometimes), I can't imagine how hard it must be to do it on your own.

CC can work really well for some people, but it's very hard work and you need to be in a strong state of mind before you begin. Apparently the first night is hard, the second and third night is better and the forth, fifth and sixth night and a nightmare before it settles on the seventh night. I only made it to night five, I don't know what was worse, dd's cries or dh winging that he was tired (no worse than I'd been through for 10 months).

DD has started sleeping really well on some nights, it's really random, but just one full night makes the world of difference. I haven't changed anything, it just sometimes happens, I think babies will just change thier routine randomly and one day it'll just stick.

I wish you the best of luck.

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