Bedsharing to baby in own room/cot help?

[BlackenedSky]

My baby is 6, almost 7 months and has coslept since birth as he’s a complete Velcro baby and wouldn’t even entertain the idea of his next to me crib. All naps on me or the sling too. I’d really like to get my evenings back and for my husband to move back into our bed but I feel like CC would be too abrupt for him? He also wakes hourly and uses me as a human dummy a lot throughout the night.

I’ve tried naps in his cot but he wakes the minute he’s put down and then will not go back to sleep. At night he also wakes very soon after I roll away so trying to create distance between us hasn’t helped. He needs to be in constant contact with me to stay asleep.

How can I transition him slowly into his own room? I was thinking of cosleeping with him in his own room on a floor bed first but then I’m at a loss. Has anyone been in a similar starting position and had success with PUPD or gradual retreat?

If you’ve done gradual retreat, did it just feel like controlled crying but with you staying with them. How long did your babies cry for? Did it change the frequency of wake ups?

Any tips, shared experiences or advice welcome!

I was in a similar position with my now 18mo DD.

I think I waited until around 10 months to try putting her in her cot but when I did I fed her to sleep in her room then put her down in her cot. The first few nights she slept half an hour before she woke up, this slowly extended to 2 hours consistently. We have had up to 7 hours but only rarely, more usual is 2-4 hours.

At the first wake I go to bed (or bring her into bed if I'm already there) and we bed-share the rest of the night with as little as 1 more wake and as many as ??? she was latched on permanently last night because she's poorly.

I think I could probably feed her back to sleep and put her back down the majority of the time but I get more sleep with how I'm currently doing it so until she's more consistently only waking up once or twice after coming to bed I'll keep doing what we're doing.

For me I wouldn't want to do any form of sleep training and have no idea how I'd even start if I wanted to because there's no "resettling" DD without boob so she'd be screaming for ages, although saying that I have been out on an evening and DH has been able to get her o sleep and back down when she has woken so she can manage it when I'm not there!

Your baby needs to fall asleep independently. You need to put him awake in his cot. He won't like it for sure but he'll get use to it so quickly and he'll love having a well rested mum who can be the best she can!

He's at a very good age to be sleep trained.

No advice I'm afraid but following with interest, as we're likely to be in the same situation in a couple of months.

No advice I'm afraid but following with interest, as we're likely to be in the same situation in a couple of months.