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4 month baby won't sleep till gone midnight

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Gugu22 · 14/01/2023 13:21

Hi, my 4 month old baby will only go to sleep around 12am midnight every night! She wakes up around 9.30am - 10.30am! Recently she's really hard to settle as she will cry as soon as we put her down in crib the rocking all night is tiring us both out! We have tried to put her to sleep earlier but she is not having none of it! I'm worried I have created a bad routine for her and struggling to get some sleep myself!

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Tiredmamma8 · 15/01/2023 07:12

Hi I have a similar post about my 7 month old. All the googling has shown that people tend to have the opposite issue. I don’t have any help for you at the moment but if I do find out something useful I’ll let you know. Sending solidarity and sleep 💕

Lily0719 · 15/01/2023 08:17

I would recommend shortening the day naps to help her to be tired earlier. And then you should be able to get into a better routine.

Richtea67 · 15/01/2023 11:23

Following as we have the exact issue with our 4 month old! Have you tried a dummy and Co sleeping? These things are helping us but I know are not for everyone. She will also only nap for 30mins during the day....I'm putting it down to the 4 month sleep regression and hope it passes soon! If you find anything that helps let me know.

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Gugu22 · 15/01/2023 18:20

We have tried shorter naps in the day unfortunately that hasn't made a difference. :(

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RandomMess · 15/01/2023 18:21

What happens when you try and wake them at 7am?

shard5 · 15/01/2023 18:42

What's your night time routine like?
I had this same but worse problem with dd2, she'd wake back up at 11 having slept an hour then not sleep until 3 am!
We started bathing her every night, starting at 9pm, feed, cuddle then more breastfeeding until she fell asleep. It took around 3 weeks of bringing bathtime a little bit sooner everyday. After 3 weeks she started going to sleep at 9 then would wake at 1 am for milk, then 6 then 10 am morning wake up.

shard5 · 15/01/2023 18:44

Forgot to say she's 6 now, at the time it felt never ending.

Heyahun · 15/01/2023 18:45

Similar to my daughter I just left her up late with us watching tv and then we all went to bed together instead of stressing

we sorted a routine out when she was about 7 months old 🤷‍♀️
I wouldn’t worry

Purplerain1144 · 15/01/2023 18:48

Have you tried waking her up at maybe 7/8am. She may go to sleep at 7/8pm then :)

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Gugu22 · 15/01/2023 20:01

We haven't tried waking her up at 7am as she sleeps very late at night. Would you recommend me trying to wake her up at 7am going forward? Would this start to get her into a routine?

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Gugu22 · 15/01/2023 20:03

We don't really have a nighttime routine :-( her final feed is at 10.30ish at night and then we try to settle her upstairs in our room and sleep but she doesn't have any of it.

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elephantsings · 15/01/2023 20:03

If you want to bring her wake time earlier it's recommended that you do it 15 mins at a time.

So let's say she wakes at 9.30am tomorrow.

Then wake her at 9.15 Tuesday, 9am Wednesday and so on.

Once you've got to a time that works for you just make sure she wakes within half an hour of that everyday. Hopefully her naps and bedtime will fall into place once she has an earlier and more consistent wake time

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Gugu22 · 15/01/2023 20:04

That makes me feel better :) how did you get her into a routine?

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elephantsings · 15/01/2023 20:13

For what it's worth, my daughter is 4 months too and her bedtime is whenever I go upstairs as we cosleep. So usually around 11pm. She could probably stay down until 9/10 but I wake her at 7.45am the latest

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Gugu22 · 15/01/2023 20:16

Last night she slept at 1.30am after rocking her and putting her down for 2 hours! It's so draining. I am hoping tonight will be better

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DaisyChain16 · 15/01/2023 20:47

4 month olds don't do routines. Keep them on you whilst you chill/watch TV and co-sleep for your sanity. Read up on the safe sleep 7.

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Gugu22 · 15/01/2023 21:33

DaisyChain16 · 15/01/2023 20:47

4 month olds don't do routines. Keep them on you whilst you chill/watch TV and co-sleep for your sanity. Read up on the safe sleep 7.

We are going to try co-sleep tonight! Fingers crossed!

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Gugu22 · 15/01/2023 21:34

Heyahun · 15/01/2023 18:45

Similar to my daughter I just left her up late with us watching tv and then we all went to bed together instead of stressing

we sorted a routine out when she was about 7 months old 🤷‍♀️
I wouldn’t worry

That's good to hear! What is your routine and how did you get her into it?

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Heyahun · 15/01/2023 23:01

@Gugu22 when she was about 7 months we did some gentle sleep training using the just chill mama course (she has loads of free blogs and advice and stuff on her Instagram - we went with the in Room settling option

by night 3 she was only crying for 5 mins and going off to sleep herself

her schedule ended up being up at 8, breakfast 8.30, 30min nap at 10, lunch 12, 2 hour nap at 1pm, bed at 8pm

it slowly creeped back to a 7-7 schedule when I went back to work.

HazelQuail · 09/02/2024 23:20

Just wondering how you got through this in the end OP? Having exactly the same experience and we’re tearing our hair out!

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Gugu22 · 10/02/2024 21:06

HazelQuail · 09/02/2024 23:20

Just wondering how you got through this in the end OP? Having exactly the same experience and we’re tearing our hair out!

Hey lovely we did a gentle sleep training from Lisa Clegg you can find her on Instagram LO was sleeping by 7pm every night and slept all the way through took a couple of days to get her into routine she is now 17 months and still sleeps through the night! It's so tough and frustrating but sleep training definitely works x

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HazelQuail · 11/02/2024 23:25

Thank you for this, v helpful to hear there is light at the end of the (very long) tunnel, and I will check her out!

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