Is it okay that my 13 month old still co sleeps?

[SunnySide1992]

Hello everyone just feeling a bit emotional and looking now reassurance. My 13 month old has never slept in her own room yet! She's ebf and still feeds at night. We co sleep with a cot attached to our bed for a bit of extra room. I just feel whenever I mention it to someone that asks about her sleep I get...
Oh she shouldn't feed in the night or she should be in her own room ....etc
Is thus completely wrong what I'm doing? We have tried the cot a couple of times but she hates it and we seen quite happy sleeping with her with us for now.

The only thing that matters is that it works for your family and everyone is happy with the arrangement.

Sounds like you have a good set up where everyone gets some sleep!

It’s fine as long as you are happy. All my babies coslept until - actually I can’t really remember when they moved out as they are teens now! But they definitely did, as toddlers, and no lasting harm done.

Yes

Yes… as long as you’re all happy and no one is resentful.

Both of mine co-slept up until around 8yrs old.

My 13yr old would never dream of sleeping in a bed with me now and we have a really close relationship. So he’s not turned out ‘too attached’ or whatever people used to say to me! I haven’t built a rod for my own back either

Haha, you beat me to it!

Yes, obviously, it's fine. Live your best life.

I don't know who's asking but you're also not obliged to explain. I stopped discussing breastfeeding when we went past a year. If someone asked if I was still feeding I'd say yes and immediately change the subject. I'm not justifying myself to people.

It’s fine if it’s fine for you. I would say though it is a lot harder to break sleep crutches once a your child is a toddler, the most wilful of any species.

It's completely fine.

It sounds like it's working for you and breastfeeding in the night is definitely normal at this age.

Mine co slept and breast fed at night as toddlers. I did what I felt was right for me as a mum and for them. They still jump in at night and they're primary aged now. Couldn't care less what people think, we have healthy, happy, adjusted children!

Enjoy this time, don't listen to the nonsense and just enjoy the snuggling. You never get the time back.

Mine coslept until this week (she’s 2.5) when we’re slowly transitioning to her sleeping in a toddler bed in her own room - although it’s still a mix of own bed for first half of the night and some cosleeping in the early hours.

All that matters is if it works for you and your child. I had my frustrations with cosleeping but it was always better than the alternative which was barely any sleep at all.

DD is quite happy and excited to be in her own bed and goes down really well and quickly now as she was ready for it. Hopefully we will get to the point where she sleeps through at some stage but it’s not yet!

Of course it is, ours is almost the same age and she does, our daughter is bottle fed, she often has one in the night, who in their right mind would have issue with a baby being fed when they’re hungry?!

Both of mine co slept. Both grew out of it naturally, no issue and I loved it at the time. Both grown up and flown the nest. One of my most precious times, looking back.

It’s fine.
mine was in with me until he stopped around 3 yo but carried on occasionally until about 5 yo.
however by the time he was 1 he was going to bed in his own room- just as soon as he woke up, usually around midnight, he’d come in with me. Personally I wanted him to get used to going to sleep in his own room even if we did eventually spend most of the time co-sleeping

Thanks for all your positive responses! Really has made my day =)