6m not going into a deep sleep, screaming every hour

[kalicia]

In desperate need of some help. I feel like I’ve tried everything. Since the 4m sleep regression my babies sleep has been so hit or miss. She went through a stage of sleeping good after it to now the past week she will not sleep more than 45min-1hour. It’s like she will not get into a deep sleep at all and is in the light stage and won’t transfer to deep sleep. She barely naps, there is no routine because whenever I try to get this baby to sleep she fights, kicks, throws her head back and screams! She is still awake at this time 2am and only slept about 2 hours since 8pm as she is just screaming the place down when I try get her to sleep. When I do get her to sleep she is reliant on her dummy, which obviously falls out, when that happens she knows and will wake up for it. Usually I used to be able to pop it back in and she would take herself to sleep, but it’s like she’s forgot how to self settle and now just cries the place down. My technique of trying to get her back to sleep is either rocking her or laying her in her crib patting her back and holding her hands. She used to feed to sleep but doesn’t really do this now. I offer water when she wakes but I know it is not hunger or thirst because when she does have a bottle in the night she will just continue to cry after.

I had to take her out of her crib now as she was just crying and crying. I don’t do this often I usually persist. But she’s happy as Larry now sat on my bed chatting away and smiling so I know she’s ok and not in any pain. I feel like we have just gone backwards with sleep and it’s very disheartening. I think the problem is partly the dummy reliance and partly the fact she just doesn’t want to sleep at all. It’s like she is scared of going to sleep. My plan was to sleep train next week as I’ve just been too busy around the Christmas period. But I’m worried even that won’t work. I feel at a loss😩

You’re doing a great job OP, it sounds really rough and I can imagine how exhausted you are. I can’t offer much for advice as I have a 7 month old and am in a slightly similar situation, he’s very dummy reliant and his nap schedule is basically nonexistent!
It could be that she’s overtired and that’s why she gets to frustrated when you try and put her down for a nap/bed, I know if my DS is overtired even attempting to put him to sleep ends up in a crying battle! I do currently co sleep as that works for us but if you want to persist with the crib then I’d say carry on with what was working for you and maybe she’ll fall back into her ways? Could be something big is happening for her developmentally, sitting up on own, crawling attempts etc and it’s interrupting her sleep?

Wishing you all the best!

@BeckyBoo16 Thankyou. Although sometimes I feel like a failure, as we may have a couple of good nights days/nights then a week full of bad ones. I am not against co-sleeping, in fact this is how I have been getting more sleep I try settle her in the crib but she usually ends up in my bed around midnight. She will sleep a little better but when she does wake she cries quite a bit still.
She has also just learnt to sit in the past week, I found last night she did not want to be laid down. But when I sat her up on my bed that’s when she was happy. When she is laid she’s just constantly trying to pull herself up

I just wrote on here almost saying the same. If you want to Dm me I'm always here alllll through the night if you need someone to talk to.
This is the hardest thing Iv gone through as my son only sleeps around 3/4 hours a night