My 9 year old, not 9 month old, can't seem to settle herself anymore. She used to be good at getting herself to sleep but now seems unable to without having me jump through a million hoops. It's been going on for two years and the routines at bedtime she Insists upon in order to get to sleep are getting more elaborate. It feels like manipulation and my evenings are non existent. She has a bath at 7, then one on one time, a story, meditation so a good routine. She's absolutely fine up to the point I say goodnight and then doesn't want me to leave and has all these rituals she insists we complete before I can say goodnight or she is back up and calling me. She used to be fine pre COVID. If I try to skip something or just say no because I realise this is ridiculous she cries and screams and then works herself up and It's horrendous. The whole house is disturbed. It makes me so anxious. I literally creep around my own house so she doesn't wake up and start all this again.