Breastfeeding baby won’t settle all night without breast

[Neptunegirl]

Baby has just turned 1 and I cosleep. I have tired to put him to sleep without breast, tried taking out nipple before he falls asleep, and applied things to nipple but he won’t let go of the nipple in the night. He cries like crazy (full blown, back arching and screaming) and won’t calm down in any other alway except by giving him the nipple back. Even in the day I have tried other ways to put him to sleep and spent hours comforting him in other ways but he just won’t take it. My mum has also tried to take over and put him to sleep and so has partner but he will scream and cry for hours but not settle. What can I do??
please no ‘it’s just temporary’ or letting him cry to sleep advice.

Two choices, nipple or no nipple. I bf all three of mine but I would have had enough in your shoes.

Why the limits on what advice people can give?

Surely it's, slowly withdraw nipple and ride it out, or don't and it continues?

I have an 18 month old that I am still breastfed and what I did was to feed her in the living room before bed and make sure she feeds well. DH takes her to her bedroom and holds her until she's very drowsy and he puts her down. She fed once at night until about 13 months. When she wakes at night DH goes to her, gives water or a snack and she goes back to sleep. It took some crying, back arching etc but he kept holding her and calming her down . Also we made sure she ate well during the day and when I was not at work she breastfeeds well. He was there with her the entire time, held her patted her etc. The odd time I had to step in and feed her but most of the time he cuddled her and sat there. Hang in there.

DD2 got to a point around that age where she was waking every 45 min looking for the nipple. I was broken and practically delirious in the daytime. It was definitely the point where co-sleeping meant less sleep, not more, and I decided to night wean. Unfortunately I can't remember what I did, but I don't think it took more than a few nights to be reasonably successful.

From my experience, either you just accept sleeping in that position and trust that in about 6 months it might start to get easier (or you can night wean). Or you do something like rock him to sleep and you will just have to persist through quite a lot of crying. When I started rocking DD to sleep, I looked like I was possessed bouncing and walking up and down the room really vigorously for about 30 mins. She probably cried and fought me for about 20 mins of that. Also this didn't really change night waking just meant other people could get her to sleep.

Could you just bf him to sleep until he's fully asleep and then put him down

Put him in a cot in his own room if you have the space honestly he won't be able to smell your milk and will hopefully sleep

Sit with his pjs, sleeping bag or whatever and his bed sheet on your skin for half hour before bed so he can smell your scent but not your milk all night

Get some white noise or pink noise or whatever and have that on in his room

Bath with lavender sleeping moisturiser on afterwards, read a book, and bf and sleep. Give him weetabix and or a banana if you can that should make him full and sleep better

My youngest is 2 1/2 and still does this for the same reasons. If you truly want it to stop then you will probably have to endure some crying. Having him co sleep makes it even harder as he is asleep next to it and wants the comfort. When I had to force wean one of the others at around 2 I went with lemon juice on the boobs before bed but I was doing a full wean, it will be harder for him to learn he can't have it in his sleep only. Does he have a dummy?