Toddler hysterical nap/bedtime

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Hey long story short my ds was always a terrible sleeper, very colicky baby, silent reflux, prem issues but after trying everything in the book and sticking to routines being persistent, never letting him cry longer than a few mins then going in to soothe and repeat it worked! Then as he got older started to get him to walk to bed take a teddy etc (still had a little wobble but only ever lasted couple mins) then night terrors came! He’s slowly growing out of this but recently he is hysterical to the point he’s blue in the face going for a nap and bedtime launching himself out my arms, headbanging floors, hitting you name it. I just feel totally lost and at square 1 as i’m struggling to console him or even physically tolerate it now he’s bigger! He’s 28m, any tips appreciated 😭

Boost

Are you putting him to bed or for a nap when he's not tired? What are his sleepy signs? If he's not, that might explain the behaviour.

Are you trying to put him down and leave? Perhaps he needs you to stay and cuddle him to sleep? If he's had night terrors, he may need some extra reassurance around sleeping.

Nope following all his cues making sure not too early and also not to the point he’s going to be overtired, he gets in more of a state if i stay by his side comforting him, trying to console him etc

My first thought from your OP was overtired tbh. Perhaps just a phase (super unhelpful I know!). Maybe try some gentle music or white noise?

Does he go to any form of childcare? If so, how does he sleep there?

Does he have a nightlight to reassure him once you've left the room? The Tommee Tippee penguin one is great

Thanks for all your replies, he no longer needed any white noise for almost a year now but hoping its just a phase that will pass. I will look into a night light and reintroduce white noise see if it helps aid him any better x