Almost one year old not sleeping the night

[itsmehiimtheproblemitssme]

...and it's driving me bonkers.
He's been up since 3am now, nothing works to get him back to sleep.
Rocking, patting, bottle, white noise. Even let him cry it out for half hour out of pure desperation but he cries himself into a state and it makes things worse.
Should I just deal with the fact I don't have a sleeper? And get used to multiple night wakings?
Not had a decent sleep in eleven and a half months and it's starting to really affect me. My partner is great and wakes up with him every night too, at least once if not more, but I can't shut off from it either and end up laying awake anyway.

My 21 month old DS wakes for the day around 6:30-7ish, he will have a nap around 12-1pm then his bedtime is anything between 7:30-8pm (with 2 wake ups during the night where I either go in and spend few mins settling or I give up and bring him into bed with me and kick DH out, it all depends how tired I am) I know if he comes in with me... a) he sleeps through with no more wakeups and sometimes I end up getting a bonus lie in til 8 and b) he snuggles up to me and I absolutely love it as I know it's not gonna be that way forever ❤️

DS had about 11 hours at night, 8:30 to 8, and an hour in the afternoon at around his first birthday. We coslept and he breastfed about two hourly without really waking.

He slept though at two and a half when I nightweaned him.

I'm sorry to hear that. Give him a kick up the bum. I kinda know how exhausting it can be though, my partner works away 6 months per year so I have had a few months of being the only one looking after baby and HOLY SHIT it is tiring.
21 months is a very long time to be dealing with stuff alone x