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10m old waking for hours in the night

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Cuwins · 19/12/2022 01:12

My 10m old has never slept through the night and until recently was waking for 2 bottles a night. Managed to wean her down to 1 a couple of weeks ago. I know she doesn't really need that but I don't mind giving her a small one. She used to settle easily after her bottle.
However the last 3 nights and 1 earlier in the week she has been awake for 2-2.5hrs in the middle of the night. No set time has woken at 22:45 or 02:45. I give her a bottle which she takes a small amount of (doesn't finish so she isn't hungry) and she seems to go down and settle but 10-15mins later she is awake crying or whinging. She doesn't cry consistently- some of the time she will sit up and move around her cot, some of the time she lies and seems to doze for about 5mins, some of the time she babbles or whinges and some is proper crying.
I have tried cuddling her but she doesn't really settle on me even, happy enough but not asleep. Tried offering a 2nd bottle but she doesn't want it. Tried some controlled crying 1 night but she got hysterical so I picked her up. Tried painkillers as she has been teething. Nothing seems to work.
She has 2 naps a day of 90mins- 2hrs. Wakes between 5-6:30am and goes to bed between 6:30 and 7pm. Always goes down awake and settles herself to sleep so she is more than capable of doing that.
Anyone got any ideas? I'm exhausted.

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55christmasmagic · 19/12/2022 01:18

Currently say up because my 14 month old is the worst sleeper to ever exist it feels so take my advice with a pinch of salt.

But that sounds like a lot of daytime sleep. I'd make naps shorter. My LB was on 1 nap by 10 months- some babies just need less sleep.

We'll get through this. (Hopefully)Flowers

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Cuwins · 19/12/2022 01:23

55christmasmagic · 19/12/2022 01:18

Currently say up because my 14 month old is the worst sleeper to ever exist it feels so take my advice with a pinch of salt.

But that sounds like a lot of daytime sleep. I'd make naps shorter. My LB was on 1 nap by 10 months- some babies just need less sleep.

We'll get through this. (Hopefully)Flowers

Thanks for the reply.
Worth considering but from everything I have read it is about right for day time sleep I thought. Average dropping to 1 nap is 14-18m everything seemed to say.
If this carries on though I might try 1 nap or shorter naps and see what happens.
Most of the time she seems to want to sleep in the night- she is lying down with her head down.

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Cuwins · 19/12/2022 06:22

Well after a record 3hrs awake in the middle of the night I'm going to try dropping her naps to 1hr each today- I don't think she is ready to drop to 1 nap but I'm thinking 2 short naps spread out might work.

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user2391 · 19/12/2022 08:54

We were aiming for around 2.5 hours of daytime sleep at this age. So we split this as half and hour at 9, then 2 hours after lunch, which sets up nicely to drop the morning nap in a few months.

ffiffi123 · 19/12/2022 09:02

My 3 year old STILL does this at least once a week sometimes more! Can be awake from 2-6am... my husband and I work 40 hours a week so it's not ideal Confused fun times Hmm

PritiPatelsMaker · 19/12/2022 23:09

Could it be the 9 month sleep regression?

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Cuwins · 19/12/2022 23:42

PritiPatelsMaker · 19/12/2022 23:09

Could it be the 9 month sleep regression?

yes I'm wondering if it some sort of sleep regression maybe combined with something else. I guess if so it's just something we have to work through.
We did 2 x 1 hour naps today and she has been unsettled for the last 30mins but not proper crying yet- expecting that to start soon!
Tomorrow we may try dropping to 1 nap depending on what time she wakes. The problem is her wake time varies so much and can be as early as 5am in which case I can't see how she can manage on 1 nap. If she makes it till 6 which she does sometimes then I think it's do able

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PritiPatelsMaker · 20/12/2022 06:46

I think personally that one nap really isn't enough for a 10 month old. They need their naps Wink

Have you had a look at the No Cry Sleep Solution. That might help.

Is she getting enough calories in the day too? How much milk is she on?

Honestly though, if it's a sleep regression it might just pass naturally Flowers

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Cuwins · 20/12/2022 10:07

Last night she was restless from 11-3am and I thought she was just being a bugger but she has woken with a temp so all solutions on hold for now.

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PritiPatelsMaker · 20/12/2022 19:56

Oh the poor little mite, I bet she's been feeling rough.

So sorry that she's poorly on the run up to Christmas too. Hopefully she'll recover quickly Flowers

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Cuwins · 20/12/2022 20:22

PritiPatelsMaker · 20/12/2022 19:56

Oh the poor little mite, I bet she's been feeling rough.

So sorry that she's poorly on the run up to Christmas too. Hopefully she'll recover quickly Flowers

I don't know if she can use it for an excuse of 4 previous nights of waking but hopefully this might break the cycle of it being a habit

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MolliciousIntent · 20/12/2022 20:24

We had this at that age with DD1 and dropping to one nap fixed it.

PritiPatelsMaker · 20/12/2022 20:26

I don't know if she can use it for an excuse of 4 previous nights of waking but hopefully this might break the cycle of it being a habit

I wax I'll recently and the first sign something wax up way sleep for a few nights before. Im sure that once she's better, she'll be fine Wink

Reluctantadult · 20/12/2022 20:27

I've seen about the temp now but posting this anyway in case. My ds was like this at 11/12m old (he's 5.5yo). I ended up using a sleep consultant. She suggested changes to daytime routine, an earlier bedtime and then controlled crying. I did the daytime stuff for 1 week first. Then when it came to controlled crying he didn't even cry. It was like my going in to try to 'get' him to sleep was accidentally fueling the wake up. What would happen if you did less, ignored things like noises and grumbling and not so serious crying a bit?

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Cuwins · 20/12/2022 20:55

Reluctantadult · 20/12/2022 20:27

I've seen about the temp now but posting this anyway in case. My ds was like this at 11/12m old (he's 5.5yo). I ended up using a sleep consultant. She suggested changes to daytime routine, an earlier bedtime and then controlled crying. I did the daytime stuff for 1 week first. Then when it came to controlled crying he didn't even cry. It was like my going in to try to 'get' him to sleep was accidentally fueling the wake up. What would happen if you did less, ignored things like noises and grumbling and not so serious crying a bit?

I do mostly ignore whinging etc. and only go on if it becomes proper consistent crying. She whinged on and off for over 2hrs the other night!

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Cuwins · 20/12/2022 20:56

MolliciousIntent · 20/12/2022 20:24

We had this at that age with DD1 and dropping to one nap fixed it.

Thanks. If it continues once she is better I think we will try this. If she is well enough for our Christmas plans then she is likely only having 1 morning nap and maybe if I'm lucky a short Power Nap on me in the afternoon anyway.

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