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I don't know how to cope anymore

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lavenderlilaclily · 12/12/2022 15:21

My nearly 11 month old's sleep keeps going from bad to worse. I am finding that I can't cope anymore. I am becoming increasingly angry, upset, detached. I am sleep deprived and don't have one second to myself. He is currently in his cot screaming and I know I am horrible for just letting him cry but I just need some space from him as I can't anymore with the breastfeeding, the rocking, the bobbing, the singing and the shushing. He just won't relax. Everytime he is almost asleep he jolts himself awake. He fights it with all his might. He won't co-sleep either - he breastfeeds for a while but won't relax and then starts sitting up and throwing himself around the bed and on top of me until he starts to cry because he's frustrated. He's exhausted too, but he just won't sleep. He wakes up multiple times a night and it can take 2 hours for my partner and I to get him back down. He usually wakes up an hour or so after we put him down so I don't get an evening. Every naptime is a struggle. I try to have a routine for him, consistent naps, bedtime routine, everything, but he just fights sleep. We tried gradual retreat but he just screamed his head off. I feel like my life is now just trying to get him to sleep and failing.

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Lauryna12 · 12/12/2022 20:33

Honestly I have been there and you must feel exhausted. I highly recommend reading "My sleepless baby" by Rowena. It has saved my life. My 5 month old baby would only nap on me and only for 30mins.
After reading the book and implementing "responsive settling" method, she was sleeping through + regular naps after 3 days.

lavenderlilaclily · 14/12/2022 15:03

Thank you, I'll have a look at this book. That sounds like a great outcome!

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YMZ · 01/03/2023 10:42

As a HV and mother of a sleepless child, I invite you to read , “teach your child to sleep’, an easy and cheap book. I’ve done their course as well. Highly recommended!

poppy8989 · 03/03/2023 16:09

Hey!
I could have written this myself.
As I'm currently sobbing after 2 hours of trying to get my son to sleep. Everything you described is me and him.
I'm broken.
Has anything worked? Is it any better?

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