Tried Controlled Crying with 16 month old... I feel awful

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My 16 mo DS has been sleeping terribly for about 2 months and myself and DH are on our knees with exhaustion. I went to see our HV today out of desperation and she suggested we tried CC, where we go in every 2,4,6,10 mins etc. And her words were "don't cave or give in".

We tried it this evening and it's very much upset me. My poor poor boy got so upset he vomited. I don't want to do it again and don't intend to but equally have no idea how to solve the sleepless nights 😭 please help

I've left a comment and I hope it helps you!

Try the "baby whisperer" method (there's a book, though there have been several sequels, get the original one). It's much better than CC especially for a 16mo who has the cognitive processes to understand you a bit more than a tiny baby.

In summary - you don't leave the baby crying but you learn to tell the difference between different cries. There's a cry that means "I'm uncomfortable" and a cry that means "I'm scared and alone" and a cry that means "I'm really tired and I just need to explain how tired I am before dropping off" and different cries need different reactions. Sometimes picking up for a cuddle is the wrong response and makes sleep more difficult. We had 15 months of sleep deprivation torture before discovering the Baby Whisperer method which worked miracles and DC discovered the joy of sleep.