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Baby only sleeps in cot

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CuriousEgg · 07/12/2022 23:29

Hello, i’m a first-time mum and the bub has just turned 10 months.

New and mostly irrational fears have been popping up every other week for the best part of the last year but today my anxiety seems particularly rattled.

My baby will only sleep in her cot. She sleeps well. The majority of the time, she’ll sleep through the night. Roughly 7pm-7am. And 2 naps generally totalling 3 hours between them.

I appreciate this means i’m incredibly lucky. however it does mean that i’m a bit limited with what i can do out of the house and have to stick to pretty tight timelines which makes things like travelling particularly tricky.

I was talking to some other mums today about travelling and all were saying how they just schedule their flights at the right time and generally the baby will fall asleep on them.
My LO would NEVER fall asleep on me. Ever.

While it’s not ideal when on a plane, i can deal with it and know that i’d have a much harder time if the opposite were true and she only slept on me… but i am starting to wonder if there is a bonding or attachment issue.
I’ve always thought she seemed quite independent which is great and something i’d like to encourage in her…. But could this indicate something problematic? Like a lack of connection to us?

Happy to be told that i’m just being completely ridiculous so don’t hold back.

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WhatAmIDoingWrong123 · 07/12/2022 23:36

My baby is 1 and will only sleep in her cot also, I have no issue with it at all! She sleeps all night long and I love it. She doesn’t fall asleep on us and I can’t say I’ve ever worried about that, generally just glad she falls asleep somewhere she can stay asleep and I can get on with my business.

Juicylychee · 07/12/2022 23:38

Honestly many would kill to have your problem. This is great! Baby is in an excellent routine and not dependent on you for sleep.

Richtea67 · 08/12/2022 12:40

My first was just like this. I get what you mean about it feeling restrictive with naps, but I enjoyed chilling out or getting on with jobs around the house. She is now 6 and has never been overly cuddly or physically affectionate but is a very confident, social and happy soul..I think it's just her personality. I have DD2 who is 10 weeks old and is the polar opposite, which has come as a bit of a shock!

Imogensmumma · 08/12/2022 12:44

Omgoodness.. tell me your secret my 5 month old cat naps via contact naps only

However, I get it you feel a bit trapped how does your baby go in a pram, travel cot, car? Can you take a train/car holiday for now until LO is a bit older and has less naps?

sidesplittinglol · 10/12/2022 00:36

I wish I had this problem !
My 8 month old is up 6 times in the night and doesn't always stay in her cot! What's your secret?

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