Baby in cot in our room - arguing with dh over controlled crying and baby sleeping generally

[lisalisa]

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I think you have already answered your own question, your dh has every right to expect the bedroom back, your baby should now be in another room, you know cc works and your other children have not been effected, go on you'll be please with yourself and so will dh..

Is DD3 planned to be the last baby? Do you think that subconsciously you are trying to keep her as a baby now. I think your DH does have a point in that you really need to think of some strategy. Why don't you try moving her in with DS at the start of the Christmas holidays when disturbance to him is going to be less of an issue. Is he a light sleeper? My DS (aged 3) has never yet been woken from his bed by DD despite all doors being open. The only time she's ever woken him up has been in the car.

just moving out may cause her to stop waking-it often had that effect with ours!

Try it and see-also ds may not be disturbed all mine sleep through each other no matter what is going on!

She may sleep better in her own room, i agree.

You should also remember that some babies need to cry a bit before sleeping - ds always does (unless he's absolutely knackered). If you don't want to do controlled crying a la GF then don't, but there is a big difference between that and "letting them settle" if you see what I mean.

In case you're interested, I did a leaving to cry thing with ds. The first time I went in, settled him, then went in every 10 mins for 30 mins. Noticed he became hysterical whenever I went in to him, so the next time I just left him - he cried 15 mins and has slept through the night almost every night since! I don't care what the psychologists say - he is happier and less nervous now than he was. He used to cry in my arms anyway.

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you may find you don't need it-try the move see what happens, ds started to go to sleep alone when he changed into a bed form a cot-maybe do the move and wait for the bed for the going to sleep bit-ie meet dh half way!

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I did CC with dd2 no nerves there at all

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I'd say go with it - let her fall asleep on you - see how it goes. She might feel reassured and then in a few weeks be able to try & sleep by herself. Even in ds room she'll be disturbed by your son as she is with your dh at the moment. If dh insists then let him be incharge of putting dd to bed. Best wishes

dd2 is 7 and is in no way shy or nervous-I would sugest you are maybe seeing a syptom of her age not of cc-I am highly sceptical that it would suddenly appear like that-I may have thought about it if it had been continous, but for it to be fine for years after the cc and then appear to my mind destroys any possibility of a link!

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well it may be worth investigating if it is really bad-but I am still not cinvinced by the cc link!

good luck with the move!

Sounds sensible lisalisa. Move her and see what happens. If it doesn't go well you can revisit this thread and come up with some more strategies.

And good luck.