9 mo will not sleep

[Sleepyquest]

I have completely lost the will.
DD seems to not want to sleep in the hours following midnight. Sometimes one up for 3-4 hours trying to settle her and I'm back at work now so it's unbearable.
Couple this with a 3 yo who won't go to sleep until 9:30, and basically one of them is always awake.
What do we do 😩😩 it's unbearable. I'm being a shitty mum because I'm tired all the time.

Completely understand, it sounds unbearable. Is there anything you can think of that might help? I lost the plot with our 3rd and used a book called The Happy Sleeper which worked like a dream. I followed all the advice and went in every 2mins 50 rather than every 5 mins and baby was 10 months at the time.
Hope things improve for you very soon.

@spinachmonster I really appreciate your message thank you. I feel so guilty today as I believe baby girl was having an awful teething episode and I let her cry herself to sleep after I had exhausted all options.
I am going to look into buying this book as well and try to go to bed early tonight to reset. I will give her calpol right before bed. If I didn't have work, it wouldn't matter if I slept badly.

I’ve just stumbled on this thread. In almost the same position- 10 month old and 3 year old and I’m just absolutely fed up. 3 year old keeps getting into our bed and demanding milk after being night weaned for 2 years 🤷🏻‍♀️ and 10 month old waking so often and needed to be held/fed. I just want an hour when I am not needed/being touched etc

Feeling like a terrible mum as I just wish the days away then at night the awful sleeping just means there’s no break.

Too knackered and fed up to contemplate sleep training which I know I need to do. Will try the book suggested above!

Posting in solidarity. Hope tonight is ok x

@violetfern how are things going for you? We have had a few decent nights since I posted this!

Sorry missed this!

well 3 year old had been sooo much better through using a star chart which makes the baby waking up so much more bearable! Hope things still decent for you!