15 week old not sleeping through

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DH and I are both 'new' parents (lost our first baby last year at 33 weeks), so our rainbow is the first baby to come home with us.
She is now 15 weeks but does not sleep through the night yet.
I wasn't concerned until the health visitor asked about her sleep the other day. When I explained that DD wakes during the night she said 'oh, well I guess that can be normal for some babies'. She didn't leave me feeling very reassured.
DD is bottle fed. She kind of set her own routine that we just stuck with. She will have a bottle around 6.30/7pm and then fall asleep almost immediately after, meaning she's asleep by 7.30pm at the latest. She'll usually wake around 10pm for another feed, and then wake around 3/4am again, before waking again between 7am and 8am when we just get up with her. She is quite good at going back to sleep when she's fed, but occasionally will be awake for up to an hour and half at the 3/4am feed.
Are we putting her to bed too early? I felt quite happy with our little routine, but now I'm doubting myself. Due to the loss of our son I'm very anxious about losing our daughter, so I find her waking during the night reassuring for myself, though I know that can't continue forever.
Any advice will be really useful! Thank you 🙂

Sounds on the brilliant side of normal, you’re doing great there.

Reduce your expectations.

Ive just put my nearly 4 year old back into bed. You’ve got a bit of a journey just yet.

Totally normal for them not to be. Who told you they should be sleeping through already?

Honestly I don't know what your HV means.

Half of babies, however they're fed, still need some form of parental intervention at 12 months.

She sounds bonkers.

Thank you all for your replies. I was quite content with our routine until I spoke to the health visitor the other day and it just put doubts in my mind.
Appreciate your help 🙂

Is this a joke?

Sounds great ! Ds1 was waking every 40 minutes at that age. 😭 Ds2 was very different.

I think this is pretty normal. It's totally understandable that you're anxious after what you've been through, but try to look objectively at what the HV said: there was no criticism, no suggestions that you should do things differently and no concern expressed.

Fwiw, my first slept through from 6 weeks (too early, he wasn't growing properly), my second slept through between 3 and 6 months and then thought the better of it and was waking three times a night at 10 months, down to 1-2 at 22 months now. They're all different and if baby is happy and you are too then that's all that matters.

Is there a 'routine' as such when they are such little babies. Neither of mine slept through the night til they went to school if my memory serves me right.

@Firecarrier it's not a joke. I'm unsure why you would think so given I explained the loss of my child? Hardly something to joke about. Just an anxious parent looking for advice from other parents.

I have a 9 month old who goes to bed at 7/8pm wakes at 11pm again at 3am and up for the day 8am.

@Cantseethewindows thank you, I appreciate your reply 🙂 I did think it was probably still normal, I just have a stupid tendancy to doubt everything.
I appreciate your help 🙂

Did you miss the bit where OP said she lost a baby at 33 weeks last year, or have you had an empathy bypass?

Sounds normal to me. I have 5 kids and I don’t think any of them were sleeping through the night until they were at least 4 months old.

Totally normal. Some babies sleep through early and some don't. Some health visitors are amazing and some are not. Congratulations OP.

Every baby is so different and it's hard when HV and MW are so by the book of milestones in development. Not every child will do the same thing at the same time, and that goes for all areas of development.

On the flip side though, how much is DC having milk wise? As my DD went through a growth spurt around that time and started drinking a lot more. So maybe could up the milk so they're fuller for longer?

@Girlmumma1 thank you for your help 🙂
She will only have between 4 and 5 ounce each feed at the moment. We did try up her to 6, but she just stops when she will stop when she's had enough and we can't get that bottle back in!
I have heard that there can be a growth spurt around now, so maybe she'll up her feeding soon!

Ah ok, fair enough!

It's so difficult in the first few months! But as long as baby is happy and healthy, that's what matters.

You'll look back when they start sleeping through and go "gosh remember when we was worrying about that!" 🙈

Sounds like you're doing a great job 🥰

My son slept through the night at 260 weeks.. 5 years old 😂

Sounds great- your 7 weeks ahead of me.. it’s 1.44am… looking forward to a whole nights sleep again.. got a while to wait but hey ho

I envy this routine. My 10 week old is up every 2 hours.

I don't think my son slept through until he was over a year old. He's 3 now, last night I slept in his bed from 3am.

my 20 month old is yet to sleep through the night. just one of those things really but sounds normal

You're doing brilliantly. Ignore the HV. My son doesn't sleep though at 13 months 🙄 so sorry for what you've been through ❤️

Check out Lyndsey Hookaway on IG. She normalises how shit baby sleep is. Avoid any accounts selling you any magic fixtures. (My eldest woke every three hours until 22 months; my twins are 7.5 and still wake 2,500 times a night.)