6 month old wont sleep for dad

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As title says 6 month old refuses to sleep for dad. We are currently on 1hr of upset, which is now into hysterical screaming and breath holding and I am finding it very hard.
DS is breastfed at night but last feed is bottle which he accepts from both me and dad. I can get him to sleep with just patting in his crib but if DH tries he escalates and escalates. This is the longest and he's never been successful plus DS is now 3+ hours since nap.

Do I leave them in their hysterics? I know it sounds sad but I can hear him crying for me and I find it heartbreaking. Do I intervene and accept this is the way for now? Any help please?

I would try again in a month or two

He's still a baby and he associates all his needs with you. He doesn't understand what you are trying to do all he knows is you aren't there and he wants his mummy and this bloke who he sees for short periods of time probably for the fun stuff is with him and he wants you 🤷🏻‍♀️he doesn't understand what a daddy is.

So why are you forcing him down this route unless you are going back to work on nights and it's something that you absolutely have to establish?

My 16m old still doesn’t settle well for dad. It will come with time.

DS is 15 months and I can't bear to him cry with his dad for more than a minute or two if I can help. It's not a break or relaxing to leave him to it so I just comfort him. I hope once he is a bit older it changes but it's not worth the stress to me or him.

Baby is still very young Op, I'd try again in a month or so. I don't know if it would be worth the stress it's causing everyone at this point.

If it helps, my almost 18mth old has swung wildly in the other direction and doesn't want to know me come bedtime, only wants her dad so...

I would intervene, baby associates bed time with you and not dad at this stage it sounds like. Accept it will be you for the foreseeable but if you wanted dad to do bedtime alone I'd consider keeping him present alongside you settling baby for bed and build that into routine so baby begins to associate bed time with both of you, gradually let dad do a bit more settling with you present then eventually withdraw and let dad do it alone - over a few weeks.

Thanks all for the replies. I did go in after writing the post and switched with DH. DS took a little bit of cuddles but eventually went off with me.

@Margo34
thank you, that's a great suggestion and I think one we are going to try and follow. I will leave it for a few months until we try again though. If it doesn't happen I suppose it doesn't happen.

@sneezingpandamum Alot of the other mums I speak to seem to have help from partners at night but I've always been solo because I breastfed. I'm going to be ending breastfeeding in the next few months and wanted to try and get DS used to dad before that change. A typical night for me is up every 2 hours with DS and I have to admit I am struggling. Someone previously told me that if I kept on only doing it myself then it would become harder and harder for DH to also do it. DS will also be overnighting with my mother once a week when I go back to work and I'm worried that will be impossible if he is only used to me.