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How can I sleep through my newborns noises?

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coleman21 · 16/11/2022 10:37

I’m a FTP along with my husband and our 2 week 4 day old LB. I’m currently having to take antidepressants again because I can’t cope with the nighttime aspect of having this little guy. He makes so many noises and little squirms when it comes to bedtime. He doesn’t have much of a pattern to his feeding etc as of yet.
My problem is I literally can not settle myself and sleep through the baby noises, albeit if they are completely harmless, I have convinced myself that something is going to happen to him if I sleep through the night. Every sound has me up in a panic. He doesn’t cry an awful lot at all so I struggle with the idea of “if he needs you, he will wake you”.
I am currently sleeping in the spare room from about 11-6 while my husband deals with night feeds because I’m so exhausted all the time but I have IMMENSE guilt because of this and just want to be able to cope with sleeping in the same room as my family. I feel so lonely now :(

Any advice would really be appreciated x

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SpringRainbow · 16/11/2022 10:41

It feels like forever but I promise you this will not last forever. During these early days/ weeks/ months it is really important that you get as much sleep as possible.

You are doing the right thing by going to the spare room and making sure you get some sleep. You are leaving your baby in safe hands. You are being a fantastic mum.

ChittyBang1987 · 16/11/2022 17:31

I remember them days. Every noise woke me. Have you tried some pink or white noise?? Can help your brain tune Los grunting and squirming out.

Also Ear plugs? They dim the noise of grunting and such, but your hear a cry.

Your a fab mum.

Knockon · 16/11/2022 20:43

I highly recommend something like loop earplugs. They’re what I used but there may be others on the market. They just dulled the noise down so i couldnt really hear it but could hear dc crying very clearly. I also used headspace cloud sounds to turn my brain off - really useful!

RefuseTheLies · 16/11/2022 20:48

A baby sleep monitor / alarm. Saved me. I couldn’t sleep out of sheer anxiety when I had my first, but as soon as I got a monitor, I could relax enough to sleep for more than a few hours at a time knowing that if my dd’s breathing slowed too much, an alarm would go off.

PeekabooAtTheZoo · 16/11/2022 20:49

Earplugs and a baby monitor. Good luck x

tunthebloodyalarmoff · 16/11/2022 20:57

We put our baby in her own room. Only next door so I could hear her cry but not all the other squirmy noises and I could get some sleep

00kitty · 16/11/2022 21:02

Oh my gosh…firstly congratulations on your son…I totally love newborns 💛
The little noises they make I love, I have sound recordings of my babies noises, they will honestly be over too soon.
secondly, I get you with the fear, I would lay there with baba in the next to me cot with one hand on her tummy to check she was breathing, I was just losing so much sleep in the end I decided to buy an owlet camera and sock (monitor) it was the best thing I did. For the first week or two I was still a bit anxious but this soon settled knowing I had that to help me recognise if there was a problem was a big deal to me. She is 1 now and I’ve just stopped using it (her sleep now is worse than ever but fingers crossed this will come)

SalviaOfficinalis · 16/11/2022 21:07

I think some babies are louder than others - can’t even describe the noises mine used to make but it was really loud.

Me and DH used to take it in turns sleeping in the spare room. Also he used to stay downstairs holding the baby until about midnight and I would go to bed at 8pm to get some sleep.

It did mean we barely had any time together but it was the only way we could get through it. Hard few months but it gets better.

PrincessesRUs · 16/11/2022 21:09

I found white noise really helped us both sleep!

SquigglePigs · 16/11/2022 21:19

I'll add to the voices saying a white noise machine. We didn't try one til DD was about 3 weeks old and it made such a difference to both her sleep and mine (DH will sleep no matter what).

The other option if your partner is amendable is that you sleep in ear plugs and he wakes you when the baby actually needs you.

rhowton · 16/11/2022 21:30

With our first, she slept DH side so I couldn't hear her as much. We also slept with a noise machine on. With DD2, my DH slept with her in our bedroom and I slept in the spare room. I had terrible PND with second and needed to sleep.

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coleman21 · 17/11/2022 17:35

rhowton · 16/11/2022 21:30

With our first, she slept DH side so I couldn't hear her as much. We also slept with a noise machine on. With DD2, my DH slept with her in our bedroom and I slept in the spare room. I had terrible PND with second and needed to sleep.

I have PND now, do you mind me asking how long you had to sleep in the spare bedroom? That's what I'm currently doing, the last feed before bed and first morning feed

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