Our 31/2 year old come into our bed in the middle of the night

[LittlePinapple]

Hello,

So for the last 2 weeks our DD who is 3 and a half has come into our bed in the middle of the night. She has a cold/cough at the moment which has disrupted her sleep.

We wouldn't have an issue with this but she's disrupting everyone else's sleep and she has a meltdown if we try and take her back to bed.

Does anyone have any tips to help please?

Just let her sleep in with you?

I used to make a little nest on the floor, next to our bed, with a duvet and pillows. Any child feeling a bit poorly or lonely could come in and snuggle into that. It worked very well.

Do you have a spare room? One of us stays in the bed with the toddler and the other goes and sleeps in the spare room. They will grow out of it eventually and I know I will miss the sleepy bed cuddles looking back.

Well my 3.5 yr old wakes every night and comes through to our room so i pull him into bed and he falls straight back to sleep. They want comfort .
Can you do that or sleep in her room with her?

Totally forgot I used to do this for DS1. He was a thrasher and it was a great compromise. He slept in a nest by our bed for about 4 months.

Ds did this on and off until he was 5. Just move over and make room, or one of you go and sleep her bed.

Ha I read this as your 31.5 year old...

What size bed does she have? Can you cuddle her back to sleep in her bed?

Does anyone have any tips to help please?

To help you or the child? The advice would be different.

I read it as '31 year old' too.

Make some space in your bed and let her get in.

Personally I’d deal with the meltdown, I know they’re unwell but it’s just teaching them that if they kick off they can get their own way.

Or you could teach them that if they are feeling poorly their parent will comfort them.

I did comfort them when they were poorly as I put them back in their own bed.

I like the nest idea, I will keep that in my mind for the future. Can you cosleep in their room? If the nest ideal isnt ideal (we have a bed in her room for her sister when she stays but cosleep in the sisters bed when unwell)

It's tough one. They need the comfort but when their well again they may have issues staying in their bed as may create a habit perhaps. So may have a tough time initially.

Personally I would go with it and do what is needed to sleep.

They all do sleep in their own bed eventually. It seems a difficult phase when you are in it, but, looking back, everything in a small child's life is a phase and they all come through. IME, more quickly the less you make of it.

I read that as ‘my 31 and 2 year old…’ 😂