How do I get my 20 month toddler out of my bed?

[paula74]

My little girl has always been a good sleeper and continues to have a great bedtime routine..normally asking to go to bed during her milk at about 7pm. However, she was v poorly before Xmas and I took her into bed with me when she woke in the night. Now she wakes about midnight every night shouting for Mummy! Becasue I am pregnant and have been v v sick myself it was easier just to take her in to my bed..luckily my husband prefers the spare room. Although I quite like sharing with her I know she needs to go back to her bed for the whole night especially before the new baby arrives in July. Is controlled crying the only way to go..its so so hard now she shouts for Mummy? Any ideas??

let her go to sleep in your bed and the carry into hers. thats what we have to do most of the time as my dd is 4!
She sometimes goes straight into her bed but normally when she is too tired to know any difference. I am terrible because I love having her next to me but we all sleep better with her in her own bed and I think they get to know that and like to have their own space after a while

Delegate it to Daddy to sort out but yes, not giving in is the only way I think.

By "not giving in" I mean once she's in her bed, that's where she stays. Go in (send daddy in) to comfort and settle but not take her into your room.

Thanks everyone. Just going to have to get tough!!

Paula - you poor thing. I sympathise - we had this EXACT same situation at Christmas post sickness. he is 22 months and we had toget tough as no one was getting any sleep. First night took 3 hours of mummy, mummying. Just about broke my heart.

ANyway - good news was that it was only one night and then he gave up - sleeps like a baby now!

good luck with it - and stay strong....she won't love you any less for eing tough for a couple of nights

Oooo I can sympathise, our 22 month daughter had been in with me every night for a few months and I thought we would never get her out.
Even though I put her in her cot once she was asleep, she would wake in the night and cause a fuss to get back in our bed. Our new baby is due in March, so I really needed to do something, and I really dreaded it!!!
What we did was change her routine a bit. I explained that Daddy would be puting her down because mummy was going out. I also told her that she would get two stories from Daddy (which we had never done before), and she was quite exited about this idea.
Night one she cried for about 40 mins, with Dad going in to reasure her every so often, and after that it was 10 mins and then nothing. It was so much easier than I thought and she now gets herself to sleep no problem.
In general I have just stayed out the way!
Good luck!