How did you survive the 4mo sleep regression?

[Mamabear04]

Just that! Any tips? Advice? DS has gone from feeding 1-2 times a night to more like 4 feeds a night. DH is even struggling to rock DS to sleep which would usually always work. I 100% don’t want to co-sleep, I find it really uncomfortable and DH hates it. Should say DS is 16wo. Will his sleep ever go back to what it was???

Should say he won't sleep more then 3 hours and anything after 1am it's wake ups every 1-2 hours. When will it enddddddd?!!!?!?!!!

Sorry to say you just do.... My son 4 feeds a night was a great night.

You rest when you can, grab moments of sleep... You take the pressure off in other areas and remember they do come out of it. It will get better.

We survived till 6 months. Then sleep trained. Waking several million times a night is not nice.

Partner took 7pm till 12am/1am I took rest of night. I was asleep by 730pm at this age.

We tried all the ways. Putting lo awake in cot, dummy (which she loves), warming cot etc, pink noise did help and she still needs it now.

I remember that time, almost puts me off having another baby. My littlest nearly destroyed me.

@ChittyBang1987 sorry to jump on here - what method of sleep training did you use?

OP I’m also in the midst of the 4mo regression sounds super similar to your situation. I’m drained.

We used CC at 6 months old. It worked majority but not completely as we still had early starts but that's because I didn't realise I was putting my lo to bed too early which was causing her to wake so early. Also we sleep trained in our room and not her own room which didn't help.

So at 6 months I would do their own room, cc with ferber method. It will help and then we had 1 night feed a night. Then dropped that around 8 months I think it was. Maybe earlier

Split the night with your partner. Sleep by 730pm. Gives you a chunk of sleep. Use a dummy it may help. And lots and lots of walking like zombies and knowing it won't last forever.

Around 4-5 months I stopped logging feeds on an app, which meant I couldn’t really tell you how many times my DD woke in the night - actually more helpful for my mental health!

She’s nearly 7 months now. I don’t know if her sleep got worse at 4 months tbh, it seems to vary every single night! You ask how I survive(d) - it’s not the answer you want, but I co-sleep when required (I.E. if I fed her an hour ago but she wakes crying, I can literally place her on our mattress and she immediately falls to sleep. Sometimes I wait 10 mins then pop her back in the cot, sometimes I fall asleep next to her).

Literally last night I decided to use the white noise function with the monitor, and she went 7.30-10.45pm with NO WAKE UPS AT ALL! And her dummy fell out about 8pm, which always leads to a wake up, crying, arms flapping… But somehow it seemed to help! And it’s rubbish white noise, it loops every bloody 15 seconds and pauses before restarting - but it worked! Have you thought about trying that?

Other survival methods include:

• nap when the baby naps (if you don’t want to cosleep, put them in the cot then sleep in your own bed)
• get partner to take baby so you can nap
• coffee

I’ve heard CC can work very quickly but sometimes it doesn’t work at all, and it can also be undone with colds / teething / sickness - I’ve seen lots of posters mention having to redo it repeatedly. Also I believe the advice is NO CC before 6 months old.

Personally I think you should attempt cosleeping. Maybe try it for a few naps to get comfortable with it? My baby always sleeps longer that way too - this morning was 2 hours!!

Mine is 19wks. He had gone from sleeping anything from 4 - 6 hour blocks at night and sleeping after a night feed to waking every 2 to 2.5 hours and then not getting back to sleep for 1 - 2 hours (I'd nurse him for an hour then he'd either fall into restless sleep or be wide awake and need to be walked around for another hour) roughly 2 weeks ago or so (maybe 3, so he would have been 16 or 17 weeks old when it started). Last night he suddenly slept a 6 hour block out of nowhere. Not saying its suddenly gone away on its own as its only been one night, but maybe?...