My 11 month old doesnt sleep

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Not sure im posting this in the right place but i desperately need some advice here. My 11 month olds sleep just seems to be getting worse as time goes by.

I bf her to sleep at night - no problem there. She has slept through a handful of times but on a good night she wakens up once, on a bad night shes up every 2 hours. She will not settle without boob - ive tried rocking, singing, patting but she throws herself back hysterically and wriggles about crying so much shes almost impossible to hold so i give in and just feed her.

I feel like she is used to this cycle and thats why she wakens so often now.

I really want to stop bfing now but she won't take a bottle from me and her dad works shifts so a lot of the time he isnt here to help.

Im at my wits end, my marriage is falling apart and my mental health is in the bin - any advice is welcome :(

Oh god OP that sounds tough.

Is she eating enough during the day to be full? What would happen if you didn’t give in and there was no boob? (I know how tough that is, I’m currently trying to wean my 13 month old off the bottle)

She isn't a big eater but I try my best to get her to eat as much as possible through the day! I think if i didn't give in she would probably cry herself sick but to be honest after a few minutes i cant bear to put her through it any more

Mine isn’t a big eater either… so definitely know where you’re coming from as I get the 3am MUMMMMMMMYYYYY I AM STARVING cry (and then every hour sometimes from there for good measure)

I think I’m going to have to get tough with it. A bit of Ferber (I’d never do cry it out) but leaving it a set number of minutes and building from there.

The most effective way to do this would be for your partner to take over the nights for a week or two. He can't breastfeed, which makes it easier for baby to accept.

You have to be consistent though.

Oh, and I wouldn't swap to other milk in the night. Just offer nothing but cuddles etc.