Is this regression? (Cot refusal)

[ottilieorange]

Our 18 month old DS now refuses to sleep in his cot.
We have been feeding to sleep which of course we know is terrible, but before he would sleep through or wake for a bit more bottle about 3am.
Suddenly he's now refusing the cot completely - falling asleep on the bed and waking as soon as we try lowering him into the cot, screams blue murder until we pick him up - then falls straight back to sleep once up in bed with one of us.
This means that one of us has to sleep in his room in the single bed which is in there with him EVERY night!
Is this a regression? Can anyone explain it?
Separation anxiety?
What can we do? Thanks!

It's not s regression as such. Its lack of boundaries. Baby has learnt that by kicking up a fuss they get to sleep with mummy or daddy on the bed. It's a simple leap from there to understanding why baby doesn't want to go in the cot.

To solve it, either

• get baby to go from awake to asleep in the cot
• decide to cosleep long term

To get him to sleep in there, be very firm and consistent.

• kiss, nan night, into cot
• tap mattress tell baby to lie down
• stand up, repeatedly get them to lie down over and over and over again even if you have to keep lying him down
• hand on chest when lying. Provides reassurance and also keeps him still.
• any shuffling, re lie back down again, hard on chest again. Over and over again.
• stay until calm. Then lift and wait by the bed until settled.