When did you introduce a routine? And how do you do it?

[Bubbles021]

Hi everyone,
This may be a bit of a stupid question. My DD is the first baby we have brought home (sadly lost our first baby at 33 weeks last year 💔), and we are very much learning on the job.
DD is 10 weeks old now, and I had a friend today ask when her nap times are and if she is sleeping through the night yet, as her baby apparently did from 8 weeks. It left me feeling a bit like I may have been doing something wrong.
She will obviously nap during the day, but these are not at the same time consistently. Should she be napping around the same time each day?
She has accidentally set herself a bedtime, and we have now introduced a bottle, book and bath before bed. She will wake 2/3 times throughout the night (though this doesn't bother me as I have to wake up several times to check on her anyway).
So I'm basically just wondering what other people's routines for naps and bedtimes look like and when they began, and also how to introduce some kind of routine when the time is right.
I hope this all makes sense, I'm very tired 🙈
Thank you!

I’m so sorry you lost your first baby

First things first dont worry about friends babies timelines or how much they claim to sleep and have perfected bedtime

My kids are all grown now but I know that when they started on solids that I would try and bathe them at the same time in evening and just slow down the pace (if that makes sense) I knew that their bellies were full, they were clean and in night clothes.
As daft as it sounds I used to read to mine as babies (whatever book I was into at the time) but in a gentle voice ,it was a time I loved and would relax me and my baby (ies). ( had to switch my reading material as they got older though)
Not much to offer OP but you are doing an amazing job as it is..

Thank you, I really appreciate that! I think I'm probably getting caught up in the 'you should do this and that' advice. Currently we just follow our baby's cues in terms of feeding and sleeping, but I know one day we'll need a proper routine, for some reason I just can't seem to grasp in my mind how you do that!
Thank you for your help ❤️

Sorry for the loss of your baby last year

Like PP said don't worry about your friends babies 'routines' and things, your doing an amazing job as it is!
I'm a FTM and I know im extremely lucky as DD has slept through since a few weeks old (she's now 9 months) I've always had bedtime routine of bath, bottle and cuddles then she goes off to sleep at 7pm and wakes between 7am and 8am (however I know this can change at any point)
I've never stuck to a daytime nap routine, sometimes DD will 'cat-nap' throughout the day and other days she will have 2 decent hour/2hour naps. I've also never had her nap routinely in her cot, it makes life easier for me that she will nap anywhere.... her pram, cot, playpen so I don't have to be home at a certain time for her naps (I know some mums do this which is perfectly fine FOR THEM)
Take cues from your DD and do what suits you, you will get into your own routine whatever that may be