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Desperate help needed - 15 month old is the WORST sleaper

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Qwertyasdfgz · 18/10/2022 05:44

I have a 3 week old and a 15 month old and my 15 month old is so bad at sleeping recently.
he’ll fall asleep between 6-7
will wake up at 10/11 for 10 minutes to 90 minutes
wake up at 1am-2am and scream like an extra for the exorcist until 3am/4am
he will then wake up for the morning at 5-5:30am
I honestly think I’m going to lose the plot I just cry with him in the night now. I have about 4 hours sleep between him screaming and breastfeeding my 3 week old.
Any tips on getting him to sleep?
(He won’t sleep still if he comes in our bed just screams and kicks, if you leave him to cry he will just cry - he will not settle at all, if you sit by the cot he either just babbles or screams) I am honestly at my wits end.

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Qwertyasdfgz · 18/10/2022 05:45

The fact I wrote slaeper instead of sleeper for the title🙄

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mountainshadow · 18/10/2022 05:53

You poor thing- that sounds really tough! It’s so hard surviving on not much sleep. I’m sure you’ll get some great suggestions on here but some questions to get it started… have you tried changing his bedtime/nap schedule? Is he teething? Do you have a partner around to try something like gradual retreat/to look after him while you focus on the baby? We did gradual retreat when mine was a bit younger and it worked well but was quite hard going for a few weeks.

firstbabyworries · 18/10/2022 05:56

I don't have any miracle cure, if I did I'd definitely tell you. Just didn't want to pass by as my 17 month old has his moments so I do feel your pain.
Just wanted to say congratulations and I hope someone comes along with that miracle 😊

Youcancallmeirrelevant · 18/10/2022 06:03

Where is you husband/partner? In early stages of having 2 we had to just take 1 child each, so he needs to be up with your eldest while you are with the baby

thewallisblue · 18/10/2022 06:19

Push back his bedtime - try 8.30 to start with. Limit daytime naps - try 1 hour. Stick with it for at least 2 weeks and see if it helps - it did massively for us. Can highly recommend Georgina May’s sleep advice.

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Qwertyasdfgz · 18/10/2022 08:43

mountainshadow · 18/10/2022 05:53

You poor thing- that sounds really tough! It’s so hard surviving on not much sleep. I’m sure you’ll get some great suggestions on here but some questions to get it started… have you tried changing his bedtime/nap schedule? Is he teething? Do you have a partner around to try something like gradual retreat/to look after him while you focus on the baby? We did gradual retreat when mine was a bit younger and it worked well but was quite hard going for a few weeks.

He does the 2-4am screaming match but he’s so loud it’s unbelievable even his nursery is shocked at his tantrums.
He only naps in the morning as a way to catch up on sleep I think, he’ll sleep around 7/8am for about 40 minutes and then around 11 for 40 minutes and that’s it!

I think I’ll try the gradual retreat tonight and see how it goes!

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Qwertyasdfgz · 18/10/2022 08:48

DP does the newborns bum changes and burps him while I sleep between breastfeeds but everytime my 1 year old wakes screaming it wakes the whole house, including 5 year old SS when we have him. DP will try get him to sleep but he screams for me and then screams when it’s me trying too so I don’t know how to win🙄
DP goes back to work next week too and works from 7am-6pm ish so it’ll be exhausting for him to work and not sleep. At least when DS and SS go to school I get to nap with the baby 2 days a week.

I’m so exhausted trying to cope on 4 hours sleep with the 3 kids.

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Qwertyasdfgz · 18/10/2022 08:49

Qwertyasdfgz · 18/10/2022 08:48

DP does the newborns bum changes and burps him while I sleep between breastfeeds but everytime my 1 year old wakes screaming it wakes the whole house, including 5 year old SS when we have him. DP will try get him to sleep but he screams for me and then screams when it’s me trying too so I don’t know how to win🙄
DP goes back to work next week too and works from 7am-6pm ish so it’ll be exhausting for him to work and not sleep. At least when DS and SS go to school I get to nap with the baby 2 days a week.

I’m so exhausted trying to cope on 4 hours sleep with the 3 kids.

Idk is SS is the correct shorthand but my partners son🤷🏼‍♀️

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