1 year olds sleep. SOS

[Thefaceofboe]

Long story short my 12 month old is a horrendous sleeper, wakes constantly, has split nights and wakes up at 5am for the day. I’ve tried changing her naps but nothing has remotely helped.

i work full time and leave the house for work at 7am and get back at 6.30pm, I’m exhausted.

i never wanted to sleep train but I feel like I don’t have a choice, DD is constantly exhausted from having a bad nights sleep. I was looking at the Ferber method and have some questions.

When I check on her in the recommended time? What do I do? She will only stop crying if I pick her up but start crying the second I put her down. She won’t lie down in her cot at all, she’ll just hold onto the bars and cry till I pick her up.

I don’t know if I can do but I don’t know what else to do 😢

God just realised all my typos!!! Too busy watching a program simultaneously

@Thefaceofboe watching with interest and hope… are you putting baby down awake ish? And what about in the night? Just letting baby cry it out for a bit and then ignore until they stop??

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@LadyHalesBroach

hi, yes putting her down completely awake after a calming but quick bedtime routine. I give her a cuddle, say goodnight and pop her in with her comforter. Tonight is night 4 and she didn’t cry when I left the room and was asleep in 2 minutes, which is amazing for a baby I’ve rocked to sleep for the last year. In the night I repeat the steps from bedtime, so wait 3 minutes before going in, lay her back down and rub her back till she’s calm, then leave the room and repeat if necessary. I obviously only go in after the 3 minutes if she’s crying, but I haven’t had to much tbh. By the 3rd night she didn’t even need me to go in and just went back on her own.

last night she slept 7.30pm- 8am (I had to wake her!!) with a brief wake up at 4am according to our baby monitor.

She was also still having milk in the night prior to this but it’s as if she’s completely forgotten about it and doesn’t even drink her bedtime bottle now

@Thefaceofboe omg congratulations you have reached mecca

Another update, the past 2 nights DD has completely slept through (7am-7am essentially) and has self soothed for her first nap today. Really happy to see its helped with her naps too

Hi, I posted similar post regarding CC using Ferber method and chitty directed me to this being a positive outcome. I’m pleased to see you got results :). We are in such a similar situation as yours was. Night 3 and baby only took one walk in after 5m then settled 2 min later. It’s the daytime naps today that have killed us. First one of day she screamed for majority of an hour until going off then woke after 30m! This set up a day of over tiredness🙈she was knackered ready for nap2 of day but just would not settle at all, in and out of room using furber method but 1.5hr later decided it wasn’t doing her any good and got her. Like I said the night time she went down pretty well. It’s been suggested to try nail the night time then go to naps. I think if she reacts the same way to naps for next day or two we will do that..any suggestions would be great

did You continue ferber method for her naps also straight away? Also during naps if she woke would you just go get her and write off the nap or try to sooth?

@Angelcare1 I’m glad to hear the nights have gone well for you but a shame about the naps. I didn’t think she would go down easy for her naps tbh but was pleasantly suprised. I think because of sleep pressure it’s easier on a night, so I’m not sure what other advice to give regarding naps.

so today I put her down at 10.15am expecting to be in and out comforting her, but she went straight to sleep, however I was planning on just repeating the 3 minute check ins until she fell asleep. My problem next week is she’s at nursery full time, so not sure how it’s going to work there.

My son was bf and used to feed constantly through the night and he didn’t sleep through til gone aged 2. You have my sympathy. We decided to co sleep. He slept a lot better in our bed and was easier where I was bf I could roll over and feed and sleep. When your completely exhausted sometimes you need to sleep any which way. It kept my sanity having some sleep and he was more content.