Help - I am becoming a human dummy

[janx]

my 7 week old will not settle in the evening - put him to bed around 6.45 after bath and bf. He falls asleep on my boob - but as soon as I put him in the cot - he wakes and cries and boy can he cry. He spits out a dummy and nothing will settle him except my boob. He screams so much he goes completely purple and I can't bear it so I end up him with him on my boob, and we go round and round in circles until about 10pm - any advice?

Really common for lo's to cluster feed at this age....he may want to feed on and off all night!!

Going through this with my 3week old DS - I guess it's just cluster feeding, but I'm damned if I know where he's putting all that milk!

We were also having the same problem at 4am where he was trying to cluster feed, but managed to solve that one using a dummy.

|Mine all did this - my only solution was a front carrier/ sling which at least gave me hands free operation. My SIL used to express in the morning and give this at this time of night, and this worked for her. Don't worry it is quite noemal( good excuse for someone else to do the cooking, I found)

go with the flow. he is building up your milk supply for when he is a chunky 5 mo old. as below. it is a good idea to go to bed early / park on the couch with remote in hand and sniff his little head while others take charge of the house.

Janx, is he hungry? If so, you need to go with the flow as others have said. Or is it that he wants to suck to sleep and then sleep on you? If so, you have my sympathy as I had this. In this instance, things you could try (in no particular order) include:

• 'Shh/pat' described by the Baby Whisperer or just walking/rocking your DS to sleep.
• Consider co-sleeping and keeping DS with you until you go to bed. (Even if not co-sleeping, I'd keep him with you until you are ready for bed to save you running up and down stairs.)
• Trying different dummies? Some people find the cheapest ones work the best.

You may also wish to read 'The No Cry Sleep Solution' by Elizabeth Pantley which has a number of good ideas in it, though you are likely to end up with some crying.

For me, I found the walking to sleep and making the cot as comfortable as possible including white noise and one of my used T-shirts helped. Slowly, things have improved and I think time was the main factor (though it felt like an eternity back then). Most nights now, DS (now 7 months) goes into his cot awake and then falls asleep. He may cry down for up to 10 minutes (not all nights) and we discovered this around the 5 month mark (he would never do this before).

HTH and apologies for the long post.

Thanks for all the advice
I don't think he is hungry as he feeds for a long time before - I have also tried giving him a top up of expressed milk and the same thing happens. I think he does not want to be in his cot and he wants to suck for comfort, and a dummy just isn't good enough! Tonight he went berserk when I tried to put him down.
I also have a 3 year old and it is hard trying to sort her out for bed aswell - especially if my dp doesn't get home until later.

stretchy wrap sling?

sounds like evening cluster feeding to increase milk supply, it is very wearing. is your dh working in evenings?