9 month old will not sleep

[Shabbaa123]

Morning everyone.. I’m truly at the end of the line now, my little boy is 9 months and for the last 3 weeks we’ve not had one single full nights sleep. I’ve read all about the 9 month regression so I’ve just been hoping and praying that one night will be magic and he’ll sleep the way through.. but here I am.. Googling everything I can possibly try!
move started to make a rod for my own back with him now.. as I’ve been picking him up out of his cot and rocking him back to sleep.. that worked for the first week and I could put him back down.. whereas now.. I rock him.. he falls asleep I put him in the cot.. give him 2-5 mins and he’s awake again! Most of the time I do give him some pain medicine as he’s teething and currently has 7 teeth! So I’ve give him some of that.. that doesn’t help.. I have offered bottles even thou I read everywhere not to give them one as they’ll constantly wake for it.. but he has 2-3oz and falls asleep.. but for the last 2 nights I’ve had to just fall asleep with him in my bed to just get some sleep!
I would let him him cry it out but I live in a 1 bedroom apartment (still trying to move out of here) and my partner is up at 3am for work.. so I’ve been trying my best to sooth and calm my little boy without making to much noise.. is there anything anyone can suggest I try? i feel like I’ve tried everything..

• giving him loads of play time through the day and stimulating him
• he eats more than enough food to keep him going
• stick to his routine even thou he fights me
• leave him in his cot to cry it out
• tried bottles
• tried bottles of water

there’s more I’ve tried I think but my brain is functioning off small amounts of sleep and coffee, I’m willing to give anything a try or does anyone have anything to suggest 😭

How many times and for how long is he actually waking up? Not sure your post said but very common for a 9mo to not be sleeping through

He wakes about 3-4 times a night.. he’s awake sometimes for an hour.. even 3 hours sometimes 😭

When awake in night or long periods the usual suspects are overtired. Undertired. Developmental. Hunger. Have a look at split nights. May help.

OP, solidarity - I’m currently in the midst of split night hell with my 9m old, 12-2:30 every night.

Had the same with my eldest, it passes after a fortnight if I remember rightly.

Its nothing you are or aren’t doing, they’ve got a big development with movement, sounds, feeding etc. They develop a peak in separation anxiety too.

Just keep doing what you can to survive and it will pass. IMO the worst thing you can do is lights and tv on. Just keep giving all the signs it’s night, keep it dark and boring.

Thankyou for your reply’s, I’ve just had a read about the split nights but tbh throughout the day his wake windows are pretty much bang on and he does sleep ok in the day for his naps and doesn’t have to much or to less. It just seems to be for the last 3 weeks he just wants to play and mess around all night in his cot. I don’t take him out of the room and still keep it dark. I just feel like I’m to exhausted to even have this fight anymore with him. The 4 month regression was a lot easier than this one 😭

Might be developmental then. What happens if you leave lo?

This happened to us, we dropped to one nap and that fixed it.

Definitely agree with cutting down naps in the daytime. Have a day where you make him push through his tiredness and don't put him down for a nap until he is literally falling asleep while standing.

Then wake him up after an hour.

Ooooo that’s so interesting? I thought they needed the 2 naps otherwise they would be overtired? His Normal day looks like this
after messing around all night
wake between

• 6/7 then we have a bottle after he’s had a fresh nappy in the living room
• play
• 8/8.30 breakfast, porridge or whatever
• 9.30ish first nap (sometimes and hour sometimes 1.5hours)
• 10.30/11 wake up.. play..
• 12ish lunch
• play
• 1.30/2ish bottle
• 2.30ish nap (about an hour)
• 3.30 awake snack
• play
• 5pm tea
• 6pm bath
• 6.30pm bottle

normally asleep for 7/7.30 but I’m my arms then I’ll put him to bed. but then that’s where the fun starts he’ll wake about half an hour later but he’ll take his dummy and go back asleep… and then he’ll wake again around midnight and just start messing around? If I was to drop a nap what one would I drop?

Push the morning nap back as far as you possibly can, and then cut the pm nap to 30min tops.

If he's having pain meds for teething when he goes to sleep, could he be finding it hard to settle in the night because they've worn off? That would fit with going down around 7pm and mucking about from midnight onwards I think?

What does he do when he wakes, is he crying or just playing in his cot? If he's just playing i woulf leave him to fall back to sleep, maybe put some music on or something to help see if that makes him sleepy?

When he wakes he was just sat playing for the first week, but now he’s just learnt how to stand himself up using the bars on his cot so he’s standing up laughing and playing so if I leave him he just lets go falls back and bangs his head.. so I lie him back down and then he just starts all over again until I get him out and cuddle him.. he’ll fight me in my arms for an hour or so then take about an hour to actually go to sleep…
I was giving him pain medicine but I don’t actually think he’s in pain sometimes as he doesn’t seem upset or in pain.. most of the times I can tell as he’ll be rubbing his mouth or chewing his hands but now he’s just messing about 😭

I would just leave him until he bangs his head, go in and soothe and then leave again, i wouldn't try and lie him down if he gets upset, but i also wouldn't give any other attention, just calm if he has banged his head and back out the door

Thankyou all for your comments on this, last night.. I’m delighted to say I’ve had more than 3 hours sleep!!! I’ve had a good 10 hours!!! I feel on top of the world 😂 after reading your comments about the split sleep.. I read it first and then reread it.. and I think that’s what it is.. so I’ll post what I did incase someone is reading this and just needs something to try for them and there baby.

6am- bottle play
7/7.30ish breakfast
9am nap (1-1.5hour)
10/10.30ish wake and play
12ish lunch
2ish bottle
2.30/3ish nap—— this is the one… I let him sleep for 30 mins.. I then woke him up.. it was hard because I felt terrible , but it was the only thing I hadn’t tried of this thread..
3.30 awake! (Depending what time he actually fell asleep)
3.30ish play.. he had a bottle before that last nap so I knew he wasn’t hungry..
5ish tea.. then clean down and play again
6ish bath!
6.30 now normally I get him out the bath.. book bottle and then bed.. but I didn’t … he had his bath.. got him in his PJ’s and then we went to ply for another 30-40 mins.. I was aiming for an hour but I was knackered..
7ish.. bottle I did a 10oz and he took the lot..
7.45-8ish in bed ( my little one has reflux so he has to sit up straight for 30 mins or he just vomits all the milk back out)

He woke a few times in the night for his dummy but went straight back off to sleep no messing around, no climbing.. just back off to sleep… the only bump I had in the road was 4am where he did try to fully wake up.. so I rocked him back to sleep in my arms and put him back into his cot.. he woke at 6am!!

honeslty I know it could just be a one off and tonight he’ll be having his party all night but I found that really helped us get the sleep we so desperately needed.