4 Month Sleep Regression hell HELP

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I am losing the will to live second time around.

Went through the hell that was the 4 month sleep regression with my DD1 and came out the other side. Stupidly thought all the tools I learnt about awake times etc would stand me in good stead the second time around. DS1 is in the thick of it and I’m at a loss as to what to do.

He is napping for about 20 mins max. I try and out him down again after say 40 mins if he slept 20 mins etc and he take forever to go off, I often have to feed yo get him to sleep and then he’s up again 20 mins later. He’s knackered and so am I and I don’t know what to do! Do I just ride it out or is there anything else I can do? He is basically co sleeping at night as a last resort but waking every hour to two hours to feed. Anyone got any advice or at least stories of survival.

Are you contact napping? Could prolong the nap?
Have you tried a dummy may help?

I feel your pain. We survived until 6 months and we opted for cc. It went on for 10 weeks I couldn't prolong it anymore.

At four months he shouldn't need feeding every hour or 2. I assume your breast feeding. Maybe try a bottle at 10 pm and put him in his own crib you might get a better sleep

@ChittyBang1987 we are not contact napping. He’s got a dummy and I settle him with that and then transfer him to his Snuzpod. On the dot he will not sleep past 35 mins nap wise. It’s so annoying as I feel like I’m doing the right things but I’m sure I’ll have to end up doing cc at some point as well as I can’t see another option at the mo…

@outtheshowernow I am breastfeeding and he is bottle refuser so sadly can’t do that. He does go in his own crib from 6.30ish until I go up to bed about 10pm. Perhaps I’ll try a dream feed and see if I can settle him back in the crib instead of him settling in for the night in bed with me and feeding for comfort.

I'm not convinced there is a cure for the four month regression tbh. It's hell but I suspect it just has to be weathered.

I'm chuckling to myself at the idea of just giving DD1 a bottle and popping her in the crib at 4 months tbh, if only!

I hated co sleeping, but mornings during the four month regression are the only times I did it.

@JenniferBarkley yeah I don’t love co sleeping either to be honest but they boy just loves it. Lucky we’ve got a massive bed as I doubt I would get a wink of sleep otherwise.