Can anyone help with 14 week old baby at night?

[DaimDillyDoo]

My DD was born 14 weeks ago, I'm trying to implement a structured routine for naps and night time sleep. We had the night time sorted with her having a last feed at 6.30 and in bed asleep for 7.

She was a really difficult newborn, we suspected reflux at birth and she was given omeprozole at 6 weeks. We took her off it at 10 weeks and it seemed to have cleared up.

At night, when she has a feed she ends up thrashing violently round the cot and wakes herself up. However she won't bring wind up and will only settle with a dummy. She woke every 45 minutes and I'm exhausted. It's now affecting her day time naps and she is refusing to nap altogether.

I'm really lost as to what to do... :( I'm so tired I can't think straight and there's so many things to tackle I don't know where to start.

Our routine is something like this:
7am wake up and feed
8am nap for 45 minutes
11am feed

The rest of the day then goes to pot as she starts refusing her 12pm nap.

It might be 4 month sleep regression. Or I would say that's a long wake time from 845am till 12pm, if I read that right. I would say lo needs wake time off 1.5 hours if only sleeping only 45mins at 8am. I read when I went through 45min naps they said double that time and that's when they should be asleep at the end which is 1.5 hours. Could lo go for a nap after 11am feed?

If she's thrashing around in sleep I'd say her reflux isn't sorted babe. My little one does it when his reflux flares up. As he's teething at mo, it's horrendous. Hiccups every half hour too. Might be worth looking into it again x

@ChittyBang1987 She will nap for 20 minutes here and there between 8.45 and 12pm. It's still not enough though but I have managed to establish that 8am nap as pretty certain.

I'm hoping it's the 4 month regression because she only really used to wake up once a night as a newborn! Does the regression cause thrashing round the cot?

Regression is not being able to self soothe or link sleep cycles also with short naps. I wouldn't say thrashing around in cot.....

Could you retry as pp said on her reflux meds to see if it helps?

@Tbird5 I'm going to call the GP tomorrow and have a review. I suspected it could be linked although she shows no other symptoms anymore, no arching her back, not refusing feeds, happily lies on her back for a while? :(

Could it be a physical development/milestone thing? My DD went through a phase of thrashing around a lot at night around 4/5 months when she learned how to roll. Once she could move, she wanted to do it all the time! Could also be reflux - 10 weeks seems early to stop the meds, they normally say it starts to clear up around 6 months. Hope it passes soon anyway :)

It may be reflux, it may be regression, it just may be a new phase of sleep for a while.

How much they sleep as newborns doesn't really effect how much they will sleep later. My first did 11-6 am for her first 3 months, then 4m hit and she woke every 3hrs again.

My second, 2-3 hour stretches as a newborn, 30m- 2hrs after the regression, for the following year.

It's a weird reset as it's a permanent change to their sleeping patterns in the first regression. It usually gets bad for a few weeks then settles down into a 'normal' which may be similar to before, or completely different.

Sleep isn't linear in the first few years. It does through good and bad phases for most of us.

It's hard, but to to just appreciate the good sleep you had, and look forward to the next better phase starting again eventually, and enjoy that before the cycle begins again etc.

Hi,

I would say that it’s reflux, this doesn’t get sorted within 4 weeks, did the docs tell you to take her off it? My little girl was on omeprazole until we started solids! Is she only like it in the night after a feed or in the day too? Most baby’s don’t grow out of reflux until they are about 1.