Baby Monitor constant alerts

[TwoArmadillos]

So this is very similar to my post from about 2 months ago.

9 1/2mo moved into her cot in her own room about 3 months ago. Since then weve been using our Vtech baby monitor overnight with movement alerts. The problem is that she's a restless sleeper after the first few hours, moving about a lot in her sleep, which is constantly setting the monitor alerts off.

Even on its lowest sensitivity it'll go off 8-10 times/hour and at its worst a few nights ago it went off 20 times in 30 minutes even though lo didnt actually wake up. I sleep through the alerts as I'm a very heavy sleeper, but it means my wife gets almost no sleep overnight.

Lo can easily pull herself up to stand and so occasionally falls and sometimes will hit her head on the sides. The cot itself is safe, other than a small wooden frame for her mobile that she's learnt she can pull down

What would you do? My wife is adament that the alerts remain in case she misses something important. Any suggestions on how I can train myself to wake up?

I remember your post from last time. How about a basic standard baby monitor?? One that picks up lo crying and maybe some noises??

Is it one on a monitor or is it a phone one? I'm a lost with all these monitors. Could you place it right next to you?? Or perhaps get a second screen?

Could I ask what your wife thinks is going to happen? Not judging just curious to understand.

Do you need a monitor? Is the child too far away not to hear them cry? Could you turn off all alerts (I’m not sure what they are for, if it’s just movement, surely you don’t need to be notified of that?), then just look at the monitor of the child wakes up crying?

So we could turn off the movement alerts and it's then a standard video monitor that would still alert when there's noise in her room (like her crying).

It has a normal monitor plus a phone app. If I sleep in our spare room I can still use the app but even that turned up loud and right next to my head doesn't wake me.

My wife is worried our lo will hurt herself - get her arms/legs caught between the slats, or fall from standing and hit her head. Basically that her crying will be too late, or she'll hurt herself so that she doesnt/can't cry

You need to turn off the movement sensor and just get used to it, I know it’s nerve wracking to begin with but she will be fine and she will cry out if she needs you. My DD is the same age and moves around all night - totally normal and I would never get any sleep if I was being ‘alerted’ every time she moved! My monitor just comes to life if she makes any noise.

I think your wife just needs to either turn it off or accept she will get no sleep tbh. Obviously the former is the one that makes sense, but if she won't do that when why not sleep in with her on a mattress or something until she's less anxious?

So if a baby gets caught between bars, it is extremely unlikely that a baby will hurt themselves. They will cry before they hurt themselves.

I used to work in paeds and the drs there always said that the likeyhood off them hurting themselves in bars is minimal as parents use this as an excuse when abusing their child. Which has never been believed.

I can understand hitting their head. My lo does it in the night, but not from standing up just by moving around cot and the need to be as close to cot as possible.

My lo is forever having their limbs stuck out of cot in night. I do just leave her to it as she will call if she needs me.

We used to have a video monitor. I was becoming obsessive so I just turned it off one night and haven't turned it on since.

I don't sleep all the way through since having lo. I just get up have a wonder. Check on lo and go back to bed.