5 year olds sleeping habits.. help!

[Zofloralover1]

My 5 year old typically takes a while to fall asleep and then around 12am will wake shouting ‘ I want mummy’ however when I go in he keeps saying ‘no no, go away’ so I leave the room and he keeps shouting ‘I want mummy’ again and becomes hysterical however everytime I go in he just tells me no and tells me to go away, there’s nothing I can say or do that will get him to go to sleep once he wakes up and does that. I’m currently 13 weeks pregnant and when baby’s here I can’t have him doing this every night. Absolutely lost on what to do or even know the reason why he does it because when he shouts for me and I go in he then doesn’t want me but wants me the minute I leave the room, even if I stand there in silence or stand and explain that he can’t be doing this he still wants me to leave and then the minute I do wants me to come bacn. Losing my mind, please help

Just to add me and his dad are separated. At his dads house he shares a room with his little sister and doesn’t do this there

Is he shouting in his sleep or is he awake?

He’s awake, keeps shouting I need a wee wee yet when I go in to offer to take him to the toilet it’s still ‘no no go away’ honestly at my wits end

Could he be anxious about the new baby's arrival? Is he happy about it? Maybe the mummy he wants when he calls out is the non-pregnant you and when the pregnant you comes in he is anxious about this? Sorry I'm just going off that really.

He did this before I was pregnant. He used to sleep with me before I started getting him in his own room and he doesn’t do this at his dads so my thoughts are that he hates being in his room by himself so feel stuck on what to do, he has loads of cuddly toys, a lamp on etc

Aww bless you both. Yes, sounds like he's finding the transition from your bed to his own hard, and the fact that he doesn't do it at his dad's where he shares a room suggests he doesnt like being alone. Maybe he's trying to sound brave when you do go in. Do you read together at night for a bit of comfort?

Yes we have a bedtime story at night before he goes to bed. Finally got him to settle, he was saying how ‘his boys have gone’ I’m looking after my mums dog and he was in his bedroom beforehand and when he woke up he wasn’t, so wondering if he meant the dog. However he’s woke up in the night plenty of times and been like this before, shouting for me and then when I go in not wanting me. I don’t know what else I can do so he doesn’t feel alone in his bedroom

Does he fall asleep alone?

How long has he been in his own room? Do you have a new partner? Maybe he is feeling pushed out. I would be having a chat with him to find out what the problem is and explain that he can't shout and of he wakes up in the night and he needs you he has to get our if bed and wake you up. I would also start ignoring him of he starts shouting after that conversation.