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2 month old cries all day and night

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mustymenk · 25/08/2022 21:11

My wife and I have a 2 month old baby boy. He has gained weight really well and is a good heigh for his age as confirmed by our child doctor.

The thing is he cries all day and night. He is mostly bottle fed so we know how much he is drinking but despite a full feed and burping twice for each feed, a change of nappy and a rocking to comfort him, he rarely sleeps.

So many times we have rocked it him until the point he looks in a deep sleep and breathing heavily but 10 minuted after putting him down, he is up again and really unhappy. He's not hungry as he refuses anymore milk but just continues to cry until he is picked up again.

Just to reiterate this is day and night. In a 24 hour day, my wife and I guess that he sleeps less than 10.

Are we doing something wrong? The doctors seem to think he's fine but surely this is not normal?

Thanks in advance

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Anetta · 25/08/2022 21:23

As a mum of 3 I think its very common with first baby. I experienced same thing with my first one. Probably baby is used to be in your hands all the time and thats why is waking up often. Or can be collic as its 2 months old. Try to put something warm on tummy and see if baby settles. If doctor said that baby is healthy I think you shouldnt worry and you are not alone, soo many parents experienced same, it gets better when baby gets older. Wish you all the best

DSawyer · 25/08/2022 21:39

Could it be reflux? My LO wouldn’t let me put her down because of it. She had silent reflux so no vomiting but would sleep fine on us but not anywhere else. GP was helpful with a variety of solutions to help

good luck !

LiftyLift · 25/08/2022 21:42

CMPA? In the meantime I would practice safe co sleeping and use a sling as much as possible. It’s tough those first few months.

ReeseWitherfork · 25/08/2022 21:44

Aside from anything else, he’s definitely overtired. Lack of sleep is like an ever decreasing circle for babies. The less they sleep, the harder they find falling asleep, the more they struggle staying asleep…. And repeat. And then they’re just fully miserable all the time in my experience. It’s hard to really say how you get him to sleep more but that needs to be your absolute priority. If he falls asleep on you… leave him there. If he falls asleep in the car… drive round for as long as you can. If he falls asleep in his pram… walk around for as long as you can. Just until you can get enough sleep in him for him to be less miserable and you can start thinking more about actual routines and wake windows or whatever. I’d recommend a really cheap bouncy chair. Put him in it, put your foot on it and bounce him, play some white noise. Keep bouncing until he nods off.

sjxoxo · 25/08/2022 21:46

I also thought reflux when read your post. Is he a bit sicky? Especially after a bottle and crying more when lying down? Does he seem distressed- if yes I would ask gp about reflux. I gave our baby boy a thicker formula milk for a few weeks about that age as he had reflux and it was sore for him lying down- it’s like heartburn basically. Quite common! Some babies are really affected from it. Also try gripe water etc if you think it could be wind! Make sure you wind him really really well. Often when they’re really small there’s more to come up than you think! Another v common problem for them xxxx

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mustymenk · 25/08/2022 22:08

We use Aptamil Organic baby powder. Actually the more pricier baby powder. On our daughter we gave Cow and Gate the whole time and she was perfect. So easy. Just a feed every 3/4 hours and she was off.

Switching formula could be an option I guess...

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mustymenk · 25/08/2022 22:19

Thank you! We tried gripe water but it doesn't seem to work.

He is a little sickly but no more than our daughter was when she was this age. Just the occasional spew. Very rarely projectile vomit

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mustymenk · 25/08/2022 22:20

Thank you for this! I think this is the only thing we haven't tried. He does tend to fall sleep in the pram on walks or in the car. Perhaps we try that after a feed and nappy change.

Thank you

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LiftyLift · 25/08/2022 22:25

mustymenk · 25/08/2022 22:20

Thank you for this! I think this is the only thing we haven't tried. He does tend to fall sleep in the pram on walks or in the car. Perhaps we try that after a feed and nappy change.

Thank you

You can buy a thing to rock
the pram. Might be a gimmick but worth a go!

ChittyBang1987 · 26/08/2022 01:26

Have you tried a dummy? I found my lo settled a bit easier with reflux/colic and helped with it.

Also things I found out after a feed keep lo upright after a feed for 20 muns or so and when sleeping tilt the side crib thing.

You could try holding lo past 45 min sleep cycle before putting lo down as their be in a deeper sleep.

Flittingaboutagain · 26/08/2022 05:05

Are you practising paced feeding? Are you feeding upright then keeping baby up for 20 mins after each feed? Some newborns need this more than others. Aside from typical newborn reflux baby is still in the fourth trimester so basically wants to sleep with someone. It's not uncommon to wake almost immediately when put down. It's survival instinct.

Flittingaboutagain · 26/08/2022 05:06

If you literally mean all day and night though then I'd suggest an allergy/silent reflux.

Pinkchicken85 · 26/08/2022 18:38

As others have said, it will get easier. I wore my 2nd in a sling/scarf pretty much all the time. He slept very well next to me all day.
we inclined his bed slightly to help with reflux too.
best of luck, sleep deprivation is tough

JustSortYoursefOut · 26/08/2022 18:42

Is he uncomfortable/in pain when he's crying? Try Gripe Water after feeds. Also, you could perhaps introduce some solids (yes, they say 6 months but my own -now 38yr old - son started on solids at 6 WEEKS). Is he thirsty? What have you got to lose? (Apart from so much more sleep)

OmniumGatherum · 27/08/2022 08:41

Bloody hell, please do not consider giving a 2 month old baby solids as suggested below. The advice has changed in the last 38 years for a reason!

LittleBearPad · 27/08/2022 08:44

JustSortYoursefOut · 26/08/2022 18:42

Do not start solids ffs!

resuwen · 27/08/2022 09:22

Do you have a sling? My DD was like this, so I carried her in the sling pretty much constantly for 4-5 months. It was the only time she was happy.

LiftyLift · 27/08/2022 09:25

JustSortYoursefOut · 26/08/2022 18:42

Absolutely do not do this, advice changes over the years for a reason. What a stupid idea.

lilroo87 · 27/08/2022 09:30

Not doing anything wrong and congratulations on your baby boy.
This is very common, a lot of babies will want comfort and will not want to be put down. My little girl never did.
What saved me was a sling/wrap and embrace the contact nap and cuddles.
I would often just sit with her asleep on me, gave me time to rest or pop her in the sling and get on with bits round the house while she slept.
Definitely worth looking into as babies will notice the change in temperature and position as you try to lay them down.
They are so small that all they want is the security and comfort from you as that is all they know.
It gets easier but I would say just embrace it all for now, they won't want sleepy cuddles forever

tonystarksrighthand · 27/08/2022 09:47

You're not doing anything wrong and congratulations.

My DS cried for 2 years, ALL day, everyday. Then one day it just passed. Some babies just cry.

TheBatwoman · 27/08/2022 10:02

Congratulations on your baby boy. I have twins (now almost 1) and for context their feeding, sleeping habits etc we’re exactly the same.

My DD did not want to be put down at all for the first 3-4 months and would start crying as soon as you tried to put her down. She had slight problems with wind, but nothing serious. She just loved to be held. By contrast, my DS was so chilled it was unreal. Now my little girl is so independent, confident, content and chilled as they come, whereas her brother can be a clingy little guy.

Some babies do cry a lot, don’t sleep that well and like the comfort of contact, but it doesn’t last forever. With the caveat that of course if you have any specific concerns about feeding or similar, then it may be worth another visit to the doctor. It does not sound like you’re doing anything wrong at all, so please be kind to yourselves.

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