9mo back in next-to-me

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We’ve always struggled putting DD down, it regularly takes us 45mins - 1hr to get her down and then she’s back up usually before dinner has touched the table. She’s normally asleep by 8:30pm (no matter how tired or how early we start the night time routine) and we spend our evenings going up and down the stairs to soothe her. Sometimes it takes 1min, often way more.
We finally decided to move her to her own room about 3 weeks ago. Despite some appalling nights she looked finally to be settling happily in there but suddenly; - boom- we are back to where we were. Tonight has been exceptionally bad and I decided to let her cry a bit before acting as I’d had enough.

This was a huge mistake, I’ve never seen her this distressed. No amount of boobie or bottle or anything helps. Out of desperation I put her back in the next-to-me at 4am yday, today she was back in there by 22:30 😔

I feel defeated. I’ve taken a massive step backwards and don’t know what do.

I don't think it's going backwards at all - it's what works best for you and your family. Our eldest was in with us until she was about 14 months? It was where she was happiest and only stopped when we weren't getting enough sleep (she can sometimes shout in her sleep).

I think I’m already at stage 😬
she doesn’t sleep well in either room. At least when she’s in her own cot we all sleep marginally better!
did your girl struggle when you moved her out of your room?

Do whatever works for you. We try to start the night off in their rooms but my nearly 3yo always comes in to our bed during the night but we all sleep and that's the main thing. I'm very sure he won't be doing it when he's 18.

Unfortunately you just have to go through this - next2me aren't safe at that age
Are you averse to co sleeping? It saved us with DD1. Can't do that now we have twins so just have to go through the pain of it

Sounds really difficult. Doesn't she climb out of the next to me crib now though?