Bed sharing/co-sleeping

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How do you do it?

With your partner in bed too? Where does little go? In the middle between you?
What do you do about covers/duvet?

How do you ensure your little doesn't roll out of bed?

My little is 5 months and over the hot weather has started only sleeping when fed to sleep when I'm laying next to her. It's lovely close way to feed and sleep. But ive only sleep like this over two nights and I wasnt confident, quite broken sleep as I couldn't relax.

I fortunately have a king sized bed but she takes up one side and I'm on the other. My partner doesn't want to move her so doesn't sleep in with us. (He has another bed to sleep in!).

I put up a bolster cushion as she rolls alot and wriggles in the night. This however will not stop her, only slow her/provide some cushioning if she does fall (I hope!).

The other thing is partner takes strong painkillers at night (has done for a long time) and is a relatively deep sleeper. He does occasionally flail also...

Just wondering how others actually do it!

So I bed share with my 10 week old
I have my hair in a bobble , my hesd on my pillow, which is in the crook of my neck.
My left arm is bent and under my pillow.
I am on my left side with baby curled into me (DH is next to baby, but with a super king size he is aways away)
My legs are bent (sometimes with a pillow between them sometimes not depending on my hips)
I wear a buttoned shirt night dress, it's long sleeve so it takes the chill off my arms, and I just sleep with my boobs out
We just have a throw on the bed in summer, this is up to my waist and locked between my legs so it does go onto or up to baby
I live co sleeping and did this with my first, after I almost fell asleep driving, it works for us, it doesn't work for some people.
Half way through the night I swap sides, so I move DS to the end of the bed , he has a co sleeper next to the bed (we live in hope) so he won't fall out, then it's as above just the other way round.

DH is in our bed sometime but he is a light sleeper, I wouldn't have him in on painkillers (or if he gas a drink ect)
Although he does go into the spare when he is tired, he then has a full night and takes baby when he wakes up at 5am each morning, so I then have 2 hours 'deep' sleep
I will say that you don't deep sleep with a baby in bed, I really miss that 2 hours if for some reason baby doesn't wake early , or DH doesn't get up

We bed shared from 4-12 months and again recently at 20 months because his sleep has been rubbish .

When my son was a baby my husband slept in a different room . At first I had no blankets or pillows because I was too paranoid. I would layer up and I usually slept a bit cold. As my son got older ( 6 months or so ) I started using a light blanket and I would wrap it around my body almost like a sleeping bag so he couldn’t get tangled up in it . I also started using a pillow but I kept my son lower down on my body ( head at breast level ) and I would rest my arm above his head so he couldn’t get close to the pillow .

I co-sleep with my ten month old only when he is very unwell. If he's just a bit poorly we both hate it. He likes his own space as much as I do.

But for when he does need to come in with me, we're in a king size bed and I put a bed rail up. The rest of the time, when not in use, it's stored behind the headboard. My partner sleeps on the sofa bed until he's well enough and back in his own cot- usually only a few days.

Baby is in his usual jammies/sleeping bag combo as needed and I still sleep with my pillow but switch the big duvet for a blanket that's enough just for me.

As soon as he's well enough that being in bed with me becomes a game and he's crawling all over me blowing raspberries on my belly, he's out on his ear. Drives me mental.

The bed shared with both of mine. Only thing to add, to stop them rolling out I'd tuck a swimming woggle/noodle under the sheet to create a little barrier. Also used it to stop them falling out of own bed when bigger.

Bedshared from birth but from 6 weeks to 10 months my husband slept elsewhere because it was just easier for all of us.
I did have a duvet but kept it low round my waist so not near baby and wore more clothes (with open tops for breastfeeding) to keep warmer when needed. baby slept next to me flat on the bed, I slept in the cuddle curl position which is recommended most of the time. When DH came back into the bed we got two single duvets and also kept them away from baby, but having two removed the risk of baby getting stuck down the middle and suffocating, which is a huge risk not just for babies, bigger toddlers have died this way so definitely one to think about.
Around 6 months when he become mobile we cut the legs off the bed so it was very low, and we almost always had a cot properly side car’d which he didn’t sleep in much but did create a roll barrier and a bit more space.
At 20 months he now sleeps on a floor bed in his own room, but he mainly bedshared until 18 months.

Please get rid of the bolster cushion you mention if it’s on babies side and not behind your back as this is a suffocation risk for baby.

Hi! Can I ask how you transitioned to the cot? My 4 month old will also only sleep physically being held, rather than just sleeping next to me in bed. Finding it really exhausting as I basically can’t sleep 😣