Moses basket

[Rba2022]

Hi all, did anyone struggle to put their newborn down in the moses basket. My son hates it, he stays in it for like 10 minutes and then cries and moves around waking up. He much prefers sleeping in my arms. Im struggling to do anything with him in my arms all the time. And at night he sleeps with me in the bed, I know its dangerous, but is there any tips/ advice i can use to get him to settle into his basket?

Have a search for 4th trimester. I know this is not what you want to hear but completely normal they want to sleep on you all the time.

Things to try - hold lo pass the first sleep cycle. Pop the top your wearing in the basket to get your scent on there and obviously remove before they go sleep. Try swaddling? A dummy?

I never mastered the non contact napping until my lo was much older

I never coslept, for me i was too conerned. I'm sure an experienced co sleeper will be along soon and help and advise on it.

He hates swaddling. His arms are always moving around. And a dummy only works for a short while. Thank you

A sling is an excellent way of getting things done during the day and having a contented baby snuggled to you where they want to be. You're his safe space, he grew inside you for 9 months, of course he doesn't want to be anywhere except in your arms.

See if there's a sling library near you that can show you how to use one, you can hire them too if you don't want to commit to buying one immediately.

Also look up the safe 7 for co sleeping- intentional, safe co sleeping in the right environment and with precautions taken is much much safer than falling asleep holding your baby sitting up in bed/on the sofa because you're exhausted from not getting any sleep.

Congratulations on your baby!

Also the love to dream swaddles where they can have their arms up are often tolerated much better than traditional swaddling.

Thank you for the advice. Will look up the co sleeping

As soon as they go in they feel abandoned, they don't know you are not in sight, they can only assume you aren't coming back. that's why they cry.

What can we do? We can either:

Keep trying, not get any sleep, end up with them falling asleep on us as per all those articles where exhausted parent falls asleep with their baby on them to tragedy

let them "cry out out" (wait until they realise no one's coming for them and they give up) then live your life with a baby that no longer cries for you

Safely co-sleep

Give a bottle just before bed, I found this made the baby sleep more. This was in the early stages and it worked, I was exhausted, it was before I co-slept and before I got a latch - at which point my life got easier by 1 million.

Choose an option an stick to it and implement it. I really don't think there is anything that can be added to number one, it just won't work. You'll keep trying and trying until you burn out.