If you always nursed to sleep/co-slept, how long did it last for?

[theUrbanDryad]

When did your dc go into their own bed and start to self-settle? did you have to use any sleep training for them?

i'm windering if i leave things as they are with ds, how long can i expect to have NO SLEEP for? i think we may have to go back to the sleep training and put him in his own bed/room. i'm losing the plot!

you may not want to hear this, but he was almost 3. We did very gradual steps towards learning to go to sleep by yourself, and the combination of that and being in his own bed did lessen the night wakings

however I was well used to no sleep by then, and he wasn't waking up all that often anyway

I would do the same again if I was in a situation where I could. It worked very well for us.

I co-slept with dd1 and she ended up in my bed even after she started to go into her own bed (she was 4) She still wakes up in the night (now 8) but it is not often - she is getting better. But she would sleep so there was never too much problem when she was in with me. However as she got bigger, there was less room and I ended up hanging onto the end of the bed!!

DD2 has been in her own room since 12 weeks and I have to say that I prefer it this way!

you have my sympthies UD. it's hard sometimes, i know.
Have you considered night weaning him? you could still BF and co-sleep, but not at the same time (IFSWIM)

I co-slept with DD until she was about 7 months then carried on feeding to sleep but her staying in her cot all night (except for feeds) until she was 1. I replaced the feed-to-sleep with rocking and singing and now (she is 15 months) she goes to sleep in her cot with me rubbing her back a bit.

ds1 was (sorry) nearly 2 when he stopped bf to sleep - of his own accord - and would ask to 'go to bed'. For a good few months before that, though, he'd slept pretty much through after having been bf to sleep and put in his cot (next to our bed, as it is still).

He just seemed to learn to go off to sllep by himself all overnight - like magic.

(He is still bf at 2.8, btw. Just, unusually, he really 'self-weaned' from the pre-bed feed. He started feeding as part of the bedtime routing again when ds2 came along, but he doesn't feed to sleep. And he doesn't feed at night - he sometimes wakes in the very early morning and asks, but I just say 'not till it's light'

dd is nearly 4 and still co-sleeps. I also need some advice. She has seizures so I'm too scared to put her in her own bed.

i don't think he's ready to be night weaned yet, and i don't mind doing night feeds, it's just that he goes through these phases of bouncing on my head at the most ungodly hours of the night! and i'm trying to be nice and patient and good mumma about it but i'm horrible to him and swear and get all upset about it.

and then i read Sophable's thread in Chat about her 4 yr old ds and think DEAR GOD HE MUST SLEEP BY THEN SURELY???!

i was actually thinking of putting him in his own bed (mattress on the floor, which is what we're all on at the mo) in the spare room, he's on his own for the first part of the night anyway. what do you experienced lot think? (it would mean me sorting out the spare room which is filled with crap!)

soph's ds did sleep until very recently .

Oh, I know all about the head bouncing. Last night had: ds2 on one side of me needing to be fed but for some reason not beinmg keen to feed lying down, ds1 on the other side wriggling and kicking me in the back despite injuncions to lie quietly or be put back in his cot - and dh, unsurprisingly, on the sofa I believe I swore at one point too.

that's what we do UD (though i stopped BFing him a few months ago, he's 2.4)
He starts the night in his own bed and then usually comes in to us. (although there have been a few rare nights when he's SLEPT THE WHOLE NIGHT!!!!!!!!!!!!)

guess i'll be sorting out the spare room today then.

urbandryad darling....he slept beautifully between 5 months and the 28th december 2007!

it will get better....before it gets worse!!!