children sharing a room, 12m and 2.2, will it get better???????

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Any tips would be gratefully received. This is beginning to look like a total disaster. Will it get better?

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mine did from this age - 5 and 7 now and they have no intention of separating...what problems are you having?

weeellllll..... getting them down in the forst place can be hard if they're not at the exact point of tiredness necessary for them to fall asleep straight away. They end up bouncing on their respective bed/cot and inevitably the smallest tires first whilst dd1 is keeping hr awake with the noise, so tears, then both start crying and it seems to take ages for them to settle. Then some nights they wake eachother in the night, and if I go in it makes it worse for the least awake one iyswim. Then again seems to take ages to settle.
Some nights dd2 has woken and dd1 has not stirred so I'm wondering if it's just a stage whilst they get used to someone else being in the room. They've only been together for a couple of weeks. We could move dd2 back to her old room, but we could really do with the room back tbh.
Thanks for your reply.

Hmm...it is early days.
My DD2 loves her sleep so ocassionally we could get her down before DD1 went up. And sometimes, when that didn't work, we'd put them both up and tell DD1 that if she was quiet until DD2 fell asleep, we'd let her come back down for a story.

DD1 always complained that DD2 was a noisy sleeper (she is, she laughs out loud, talks, grunts you name it) so it took her (DD1) a while to get off sometimes.

Now however a bomb could go off and neither would wake.

also remember threatening to put them in separate rooms and neither one wanted that!

Thanks HE, will stick with it for the time being

Could they (and perhaps you) curl up in bed together, have stories and cuddles then perhaps transfer younger when asleep into her cot?

I moved my two (DD1 is nearly 3 and DD2 is nearly 1) in together 2 weeks ago and thankfully it has all settled down now - so there is hope.... Initially we had a couple of nights when they were up until 9pm, starting with laughing and giggling, then bouncing and DD1 running around, then lots of overtired crying from them both. Eventually they both passed out. I don't have any advice really - we completely ignored them, hard though it was. After the first night the time of laughing, bouncing and crying lessened and now they both go down pretty much immediately. Maybe your two just need a bit more time to adjust.

If it's any help, my routine is as follows: after their bath I get them both into their PJs then sit on DD1's bed with DD2 on my lap drinking her milk and DD1 next to me and read a story. I then take them to bathroom to clean teeth and DD1 to go to the loo, then back to the room, DD2 into sleeping bag, sit back on DD1's bed and read one more story. DD2 is usually pretty floppy and sleepy by then so I put her straight into the cot and turn out the lights, then persuade DD1 into bed, sing one lullaby and leave. I try not to get drawn in by either of them, e.g. if DD2 has stood up again in the cot, I'll generally leave her to it and I try not to let DD1 pester me for extra stories or lullabies etc. Basically I keep it all as simple and unstimulating as possible.

I am sure your two will get used to it - I'd definitely give it a bit more time before seperating them again.