Bedtime routine 4 month old

[Dove88]

Hi, sorry if this is an over asked question but hoping if I lay out what I currently do vs what I’m hoping to achieve you lovely lot can help me!
Baby is just over 4 months. Night time up until now has been very hit and miss, generally she sleeps in her next to me crib half the night and in our bed the other half (it switches which half).
Our ‘routine’ since birth has been feeding her downstairs (breast) while DH and I eat tea/watch tv. She usually drops off to sleep at 8ish. When we go to bed at around half 9, I carry her up, DH changes her, gets her pjs on then I get into bed with her and feed her. When she’s asleep I move her to the crib, if she wakes at that point I usually try a few times and if it’s not working she comes into bed with us.
With the sleep regression looming I want to stop feeding her to sleep really. So I was thinking new routine could be feeding her downstairs as usual (I don’t know how I’d stop her from dropping off at this point though). Then taking her upstairs, maybe giving her a little massage, getting pjs on, get into bed and read/sing whilst brushing her hair (she finds that quite soothing) them popping her into the crib. I’m looking for a routine that I can stick to with minor adjustments when she’s ready for her own room.
Do you think this is an ok routine?
Any tips?
I don’t want to bathe her every day and honestly bath during the days is so much easier.
Thanks for any help, sorry for the wall of text!

Try it but if it doesn't work don't beat yourself up as:

• she isn't weaned and relies on milk to fill her up
• she is an individual and doesn't come with a manual
• she can have a growth spurt at anytime and require more milk so more feeds.

Also why the rush to get her in her own room? They are only a baby for a very short period.

I’m not moving her to her own room anytime soon, just want to prepare for when she does.
I keep reading that good sleep patterns need to be established during the sleep regression to avoid future issues. With me being a rubbish sleeper myself I don’t want that for her.

Just to add, she only contact naps during the day

Just remember each baby is individual and there's no 'one routine suits all' kind of thing. For comparison, my DD is 4.5months, formula fed.
Our routine is 6:30pm bathtime (sometimes it's a quick 5 minutes, sometimes longer but she loves her bath) then change into PJ's and bottle at 7pm. She's asleep by 7:30pm, 8pm latest each night. On the odd special occasion (family parties etc) if we are out later DD has her bath before we go out, and I take her PJ's with me, she's changed into those for 7pm along with bottle and she's asleep in her pram by 7:30pm. I find this works for us then I don't have to faff about changing her when we get home and it's keeping to most of her routine. You'll find something that works for you

I keep reading that good sleep patterns need to be established during the sleep regression to avoid future issues
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I was told long before I had a child routines for babies are for parents. Babies don't remember and don't care.

Now if she was weaned and one, so a toddler, it would likely be a problem if you didn't have a routine.

With me being a rubbish sleeper myself I don’t want that for her.

Part of being a parent I'm afraid.

Also you can't control whether you have a good sleeper or not. She can decide at any age she is a night owl.

Agree with all the previous comments that every baby is different and it’s the most annoying thing they don’t come with a manual, but stick to what you know.

some babies don’t hit regressions as hard as others, you could be planning for nothing.

baby is only small once, they need full belly’s and some think 4 months is a good time to start a routine, i think they are too small to remember and it only takes an illness or growth spurt to throw that sleep training off.

I feed our 13 week old downstairs until she is asleep (around 9-10pm) and if that gets her through a regression I will carry on doing that

good luck!