10 week old baby

[mussie]

Hi all

I know this sounds mad (and it feels mad, my eldest was a non-sleeper and still is at 2yo!) My new baby seems like he is keen and ready for a bedtime routine.

When he is tired, he gives obvious sleep cues (yawning, rubbing his eyes, glazing over) and after a few minutes will get a bit fussy, and only settle once put in his sleep space, and then mostly either settle himself to sleep or have his dummy for a bit and then fall asleep.

He's starting to do these tired cues earlier and earlier in the evening - now it's about 9.30, when usually we are downstairs watching tv until after 10. He won't settle well in the Moses basket at this time, only settles properly once we take him upstairs to his sidecar crib.

I don't know what to do - do I settle him in his crib and come back downstairs, leaving him on his own for an hour or so? Keep making him wait downstairs until we go up? Go to bed myself at 9.30??

With my eldest we were still in a small flat so even when she started going down at 7pm, I didn't feel so conflicted about leaving her across the hall while we went to the living room!

TLDR - would you leave a 10 week old sleeping in a different room as you for the evening?

I stayed with mine, I often appreciated the early nights.

Babies should have all their sleep (day and night) in the same room as an adult until at least 6 months to protect against SIDS, so if you’re putting baby to bed you need to stay there with them. I know lots of babies are happy to sleep in the living room of an evening but mine wasn’t from about 10 weeks so I just lay in bed with him and watched TV or read

I always went to bed when my lo wanted to go bed 🤷🏼‍♀️ I loved it. Early night! Personally at this age no I wouldn't. But that's my preference, and being terrified of sids.

I remember being very adamant that I would just go to bed at 7pm when my eldest was 4mo, reasoning that it was only until 6mo. I think I made it two nights and then got incredibly bored and had to reassess 😅 but as I say, then she was just across the hallway and we left both doors open so it was practically like putting her on the other side of a large room! Bigger difference putting a small baby up a flight of stairs.

Seems like it is not the done thing though. I really treasure the time spent in the evening with my OH, and I get really bored going to bed early, so I think we'll just have to start a bedtime routine with the Moses basket in the corner of the living room away from us, and hopefully wee man will take to the idea!

Mine were both like this at that age they were ready for bed about 9pm/10pm and youngest was sleeping through!

I used to just go upstairs with them. I was glad for some rest. I was able to pop the TV on in the bedroom or sit and read with a bedside lamp on. So would sit up in bed for a bit. But I was usually so exhausted I was asleep myself by 11pm.

When it got to the point that they were settling down for the night by 8pm, I started leaving them upstairs to sleep. That was probably about four months old.

My eldest was in his own room at 3 months old. So I was used to him being in a different room anyway. We had a video monitor and I would check him regularly.

My youngest was also like this with naps. He needed to be in his own bed, with quiet and dark to sleep. I'm not surprised he couldn't nap with my eldest in the room TBH. So I was putting him in our bedroom to nap from about 8 weeks old. Again, we used the video monitor and I would usually play with eldest in his room next door so would check in on him.

DH used to come hang out with me in the bedroom! We watched TV and chilled, it was nice. Or he stayed with baby while I had a bath and read a book.
The reason being a couple of rooms away with doors open isn’t the same, is it’s an adult breathing near the baby that helps them regulate their breathing and is what’s protective. Being in another room even with doors open won’t do this (babies need adult bodies to regulate them in many ways, it’s why so many babies are happier held and sleeping on a person)
Monitors cannot take the place of breathing near the baby. I see so often people saying ‘it’s alright I can see them on the monitor’ completely not understanding that being able to see them has nothing to do this. SIDS is highest at 3-4 months because people think babies are ok to sleep in other rooms by then. Many countries advise room sharing for a minimum of 12 months, we’re low at only recommending 6