Hysterical 11 week old at bedtime - fine at nap time

[Gamechanger2019]

11 week old is hysterical come bedtime but goes down fine at nap time, any ideas why?

I’m following all the rules, dark room, consistent space, wind down, routine, day time naps tracking against wake windows, and last sleep at 5pm.

Yet honestly he goes red, tenses, stop breathing and goes on redic. I’ve tried earlier and later times - nothing seems to make a difference.

anyone else had the same? Any tips? Did they grow out of it?

Probably over tired. The more tired, the more difficult it can be to get to sleep. Can you bring bedtime forward?

What are you actually doing? Putting him down and leaving? Feeding to sleep?

At that age I just let mine sleep on me while I watched tv and popped then in the moses basket next to me when I was sure they were in a deep sleep.

@SinnermanGirl I’ve tried and makes no difference.

The only difference vs day time is I feed him downstairs so I’m going to try and feed him in his room when I’m at home.

@VintageVest I might end up giving that a go, I just feel like he’ll keep going all night if I do though because he’s so nosey but maybe worth a go to see what happens. I’m probably asking a lot for a 3 month old, I can deal with the wailing because it’s normally 1hr max but it’s increasingly causing friction between my husband and I

Sounds overtired

Overtired my first thought too.

Both of mine seemed to need a bit of a cry at bedtime, kind of letting all the tension out before nodding off. I found trying to resettle them (picking up, stroking, etc) actually made things worse so just ended up sitting in the room with them while they had a shout for 5 minutes and then fell asleep.

tomorrow I’ll try earlier again and see what happens, it might be different now he’s a couple of weeks older

11 weeks is absolutely tiny. We had no routine at that age, I considers them too young. They hung out with us napping and watching TV on us until we went to bed until they were six months. It’s not forever. I hate unnecessary crying.. maybe try a more gentle approach where they stay close to you. It’s where they want to be!