8 week old - night time sleeps never longer than 1.5 hrs

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My Lb is 8 weeks and with exception of one night where he slept 4hrs straight, he has never in his life slept more than 1.5-2hrs at night.

Initially, while he was asleep in those 1.5 hr periods, he was a very noisy, grunty, whingy sleeper. he was diagnosed with silent reflux at 5 weeks and the Medication has stopped that noisy painful sleep so at least the 1.5 hr sleep is peaceful.

we assumed once we started medication we would see improvement in his sleep stretches, then we put it down to a 6 week growth spurt then a light head cold he had, however now 3/4 weeks later on medication, he is still only sleeping 1.5 hrs in his next2 me at night. He doesn’t always want fed, it is generally comfort he is looking for, or we pop a dummy in to stretch his sleep a little longer without lifting.

the more I talk to other parents about lack of sleep, the more I realise that they mean due to 1-3 wake up on average with a few rougher nights, not 8 weeks of 8/9 wake ups.

im worried that my Lb isn’t getting good restorative sleep at night or that something is wrong. He sleeps 4/5 naps during day but mainly on us or short 45mins in his Moses basket.
I’m also feeling very restricted due to sleep deprivation as it’s difficult to get out much when I am so tired.

husband is an incredibly heavy sleeper so cosleeping is not a possibility for us.

any experiences or advice would be appreciated

That sounds completely normal to me. Babies all sleep differently.
Alongside the medication you can raise the head of his cot a little. That will help keep everything down. What medication is he on?
I kept waiting for DSs sleep to get better and put so much pressure on myself about what he 'should' be doing. But after a while I just had to accept he was a rubbish sleeper.
Do you have a spare bed somewhere? That way you and DH can trade off through the night, or everyone other night ect. That way you can at least get a good sleep?

It's normal to wake frequently. They are brand new. They are instinctively checking you are still there. They have no object permanence, if they don't see you at all times they cannot know you are elsewhere, they will naturally assume you are gone, which is why they get upset, and why they should be reassured by our presence. All they want is to be with us at this time, and for a few months. Just be with the baby and life will be much easier. You cannot train a baby to not want their mother.

I would honestly take yourself and baby to a bed for just you two. The sleep deprivation I had in the first few weeks was unbearable. I take my hat off to anyone who can cope with it. I could not, and I wasn't even working at the time.

I put her in bed with me and without my other half and followed all the guidance. Even a mattress on the floor for you two in another room would work. I slept in the lounge for a while on the sofa, you just do what you have to do. Anything bur have your baby crying all night wondering why their mother has disappeared. It's really not worth the stress trying to do this for months on end.

Have you noticed everyone seems to have the same problem? It's so easily solved too.

That sounds normal, and with cosleeping the baby doesn't sleep between the parents they sleep just on the mother's side so how heavy a sleeper your partner is doesn't matter. But he could also go to a different bed.

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