3month old FF eat/sleep

[DG2022]

Hi
First time mum here
Our little boy is fast approaching 3 months
He currently sleeps in his next2 me at night
He is formula fed and has around 5/6oz every 4hours
My partner works 9-5 and I'm on mat leave

Currently I go through to bed around 8pm and my partner stays up in the living room with the wee one until his last feed which can vary from anything inbetween 11pm - 1pm. Also depends how tired my partner is when he brings him through then I'm through the night with him.

Normally it's the same - he sleep for about 4hours at a time at night.

My question is about getting him in to his next2 me before that late time of night so not staying up in the living room as surly that's not a good routine but then I would get woken up.

What did you guys do to share feeds with your partners? Maybe at some point I'll be able to sit and actually watch tv again with him🤣
TIA xx

We did something very similar except my lovely DS woke every 2 hours.

I would say really don’t worry about routine for now, DS is so young it really won’t matter, it’s more important for you and DH to maximise how much sleep you’re getting.

I know what you mean about never being together in the evenings. It’s only for another couple of months though, things get better.

Good to hear you did something similar.
only recently been going longer between feeds.
At what age did you change the set up of the little one staying through living room with DH?

thanks.. that’s reassuring

We changed our routine at 6 months when DS went in his own room and we did sleep training (highly recommend reading Dr Ferber’s book).

We were really worried about doing it but felt like we had no option because DS got worse at sleeping through and started waking up every 35 minutes all night. And it worked like magic - he learnt to go to sleep on his own really quickly and actually slept. Woke up twice per night for feeds and then over a month we reduced it to no wake ups.

I know a lot of people don’t like sleep training but it was the best thing we ever did, and didn’t involve much crying at all. Even if you don’t think it’s for you, it’s still worth reading the book to understand more about sleep in general.

My DS is now 1 and still sleeps 7pm-6.30am every night. I think it was a blessing that he was so bad at sleeping because it forced us into it. Our friends whose babies were better at the beginning didn’t do sleep training but they’re still up a few times every night now their DCs are over 1.