Bedtime anxiety

[CatandThings]

My DD is 6mo. She co-slept with us up until a month ago when my partner said 'enough' and I agreed.
It's been nice having the bed back but it takes 2 hours + to get her to sleep every night. I'm now depressed and anxious and spend all day worrying about bedtime, as it takes so long and she cries so much if not being held or comfort fed.
I ask my partner to help but he gets fed up and will only want to rock her for 5 minutes before giving up and letting her cry. He wants to try the cry it out method but I really didn't like it when we tried for a few nights.
I've tried just leaving her in the cot but she'll start crying if left for too long.
We gets tired around 6.30 every evening. She then has a feed and bedtime routine and is in her cot by 7.30 but doesn't sleep until 9/10. I'm exhausted.
I'm not sure even why I'm posting - rant? Want to feel less alone?

What is the quickest and easiest way to get her to sleep, and how long does that take?

Comfort feeding while lying down with her in our main bed

Personally I would (and did) just keep co-sleeping and tell DH he can have an opinion when he's the one losing two hours of his night and doing the night wakings. But we've never been that bothered about sleeping separately in the first place, so we had it set up so DD and I slept in the main bed and DH slept in the spare room and everyone got plenty of sleep and was happy!

So the issue is you want her to sleep in her cot? That is a BIG transition for a little baby, you're not going to be able to make that happen without lots of tears and upset.

If you can't face the crying, I'd get her back in your bed and come to terms with the fact that she'll be in with you until she's 2 or 3 and old enough to understand about sleeping separately.

If you're not happy with that, then you need to accept that there will be crying. Do a bit of research into sleep training, find a method that feels right for you, and then stick to it religiously. Or, more expensive but easier, get a sleep consultant.