So it begins … 4 month sleep regression

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Our dd is now 14 weeks and sleep is rapidly declining. Lots of waking day and night after 45 mins of sleep. We are guessing its an early regression.
We were always told and believed there are no rods etc. But starting to think my back is getting a beating! 😂
Dd has the 5s to go to sleep at night. We pop her down in a deep sleep and all was fine. Similarly we contact nap as she couldn’t get the hang of the crib, pram etc in the daytime.
But now the game has changed and she wakes every 45 mins after 1am. I am now unsure what to do next. I know its a phase that will pass one day even without any input from me but want to facilitate its end as much as possible!

1. In happier times she would settle with a dummy and hand on chest in the middle of the night. Sadly no longer the case, is she needing the 5s again as thats how she got to sleep?! So do we now try to get her to sleep in crib from awake? I did try this yesterday but after 40 mins gave up as she was wide awake despite being tired and giving the cues earlier. A lot of people rock their older babies, did they just suck it up and do it multiple times during the regression each night?
2. I originally thought my day naps were a problem as contact is inconvenient (wish that was my biggest problem now!) So do I try to correct this now so she can keep practising more independent sleep. My worry is if I take away the so far “reliable” day sleep by experimenting it will lead to a really overtired baby as the nights are already shambolic. But the naps can be long. She has a very short wake window (an hour or so) so gets miserable when awake too long. Yesterday she napped a total of 6 hours which seems a lot. Should I be waking her after an hour or so and capping total nap time? I want her to link cycles and would this allow that? Sorry for the essay but feeling so unsure what to do for the best and feel like Ive already messed up by not teaching her independence from the start. We just took the lead from her which is what most people advocate.

Ah yes, I remember "the 4 month sleep regression" .

I'm still waiting for it to end, and DS is 7 now. Basically the early baby sleepiness wore off and...that was it. On the bright side, they become more alert and interactive.

Ahh I remember this well. Mainly because the 4 month regression turns into the 8 month, then the 10 month and so on...

From what I remember, at 4 months, babies are learning to link their sleep cycles and when they've done this, they'll sleep for longer periods again (until they want to learn to roll/ crawl/ stand up/ walk etc). I just remember having to ride it out and it lasted 6 weeks for us.

I started co-sleeping with my DD at 3.5 months to get through the regression. I looked at capping naps but ultimately decided to just do nothing and hope for the best. The worst passed after a few weeks. She is now 10 months and over the past week or so has slept for the first 2 or 3 hours of the night in her cot in her own room, she then comes into bed with me and prior to the past couple of days was sleeping 11pm-5am.

My girl is almost 20 weeks and was never a good napper and always only ever woke once during the night since birth. Now, she barely naps during the day and seems to only toss and turn all night long, not fully waking.
I have myself a ball of anxiety worried about it, and worried if she's getting enough sleep. I hope it passes soon, my anxiety is very bad.

Really in need of some reassurance from other mums or even just a place to rant before I loose my mind this week…

My baby is 14 weeks old and he has this past week or so stopped sleeping at night time other than a few hours here and there. He was always a good sleeper and went down at 7:30pm, dream feed at 10pm then back down until 3:30am-4am feed then up for the day at about 6:30am.
Now he goes down ok(ish) at 7:30pm, tosses and turns until 10pm dream feed then he is awake every hour thrashing around in his bedside crib. He whacks his feet up and down so violently all night long and turns his head from side to side whilst rubbing his face. It’s so loud and wakes me every minute it’s horrendous.

He naps ok during the day if I make sure to not let him get over tired.

Feeling hopeless and I’m being a real moody bitch to my boyfriend cos I’m so tired. He’s getting annoyed at me now which is making everything worse. I just cried in bed last night from 1am - 3am listening to the baby thrash around and my boyfriend snore beside me.

Please someone tell me this gets better 😢

Wow June feels like so long ago! @BeckyLeo I can say it does get better. We didn’t end up changing anything and it just passed on its own. We no longer have the hourly wake ups! However we are currently battling split nights with our dd who is nearly 7 months now. You win some you lose some I guess. 😣😴

Can you put him in a separate room from you and use a baby monitor? I know it's not in line with guidance but your mental health is important and it sounds like he doesn't actually need you all night? Also I found the dream feed was upsetting my baby's stomach and so stopped it and that helped..do you think he might be windy?