Cant work out how to do it!

[assumpta]

Hi i am mum to a 2.5 yr and almost 5 month dd. My 2.5yr is fine, but when I try to get my 5 month to nap at lunch time its a nightmare. I cannot get her off to sleep without breastfeeding her. Once she comes off my breast she sleeps for about 20/30 mins and then wakes up crying, because I have not been able to wind her or let her get off to sleep on her own. By this time my other dd is wanting lunch etc. My mum is coming to stay for a while and we have decided to work on it together. She is really good and will do whatever I ask. I was thinking of expressing for this lunchtime feed and she can give this feed to her and then wind and perhaps get her off to sleep while I deal with other dd. What does everyone think? Would you do controlled crying at this stage? Would you recommend I give her a comforter cloth with my smell on it that she can snuggle when she is dropping off so she has that instead of needing to comfort sleep? Please help me.

Too little for CC, imo.

Can your mum give your DD1 her lunch and you can try to settle your DD2 - save you faffing about expressing?

assumpta, dont do c/c at this very early stage.its too early and you ll stress yourself out over the baby crying.
have oyu got a routine going or a simple pattern might be the better used terminology?
if not there are some guide books, wont name them, but i used them and i breastfed both of mine quite contently!,
it is hard to get that day nap to work at noon/1pm and it will kick in .

comofrter might help, i didnt use one.

Thanks, I felt that it was too early for cc and so did my mum. I really want to be able to get her to sleep without bf and for my husband to bottle feed my milk for this feed for the next number of months as he is taking a break from his work for 6 months. I do have a bit of a routine and would really like to get her to sleep unaided. How do I do it though?

We have read the baby whisperer and have tried the pick up put down technique. Seems to work, we have gone from 7/8 night wakings to 2/3 in 6 weeks. Works for daytime naps too. They have a website, not sure what it is though.

assumpta
morn feed 7/8am, quick nap round 9am, 20/30mins, nxt feed 10.30/11,noon nap (the big one, feed 2pm, baby may have another short nap 4/4.30 15/30mins, evening feeds start 5pm,break wind,maybe start bath around 6pm,dress in bed clothes, feed again and baby should be ready for sleep. another feed at 10/11pm whenever baby wakes, then this really should settle baby in to night sleep and perhaps a feed in the night _ mine did til 8mths- til morn at 7/8am.

writing that, baby could feed 1/2 hr ealrier/ later.

if not cut back on last day nap.
cut out last day nap maybe at your babys age, cant remeber.
thats a structured routine, it worked for me as a breastfeeder from about 4mths when i needed a routine as i had 2 under 2. some people dont agree thou. theres a clue in my original message , content, for the other book i refer to.

Baby whisperer is also a lovely book and works with the one i mention. i had both and used elements from both