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Let me tell you we have had the night from hell, DD has been a nightmare..

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ScoobyDoo · 13/01/2008 08:45

Well what i am aboutt o tell you, you won't believe.

DD went to bed at 7.30pm last night she woke at about midnight & guess what? she is still a sodding wake now

We have been awake literally all night, she was just screaming, shouting & kicking in her cot, she was wide awake & no way was she going back to sleep, we tried EVERYthing.

So i eventually got to sleep at 4am, dp sat up with her & i got up at 8.20am & she is STILL awake, dp is now asleep.

I am shattered, fed up with her & sick of her bloody sleeping probs it's driving me mad.

I just tried to put her to sleep now & guess what? she started kicking, screaming & shouting "out" "out"

Great sunday we are going to have in & out of bed to catch up on sleep!

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ScoobyDoo · 13/01/2008 08:47

I am going to take her to the doctor's i think.

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yawningmonster · 13/01/2008 08:55

how old is she scooby. DS would has nights like this whenever he was coming down with something and can still literally be up and hollering full volume if unwell at age 3.3.

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ScoobyDoo · 13/01/2008 08:59

She is 2 very soon, she does have a slight cold.

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seeker · 13/01/2008 09:08

Please don't hit me but can I suggest that you take her out. I know the weather's crap - but wrap up and go for a walk. Beach, woods, zoo - anything really, but try to make it so interesting that she won't fall asleep. They are always easier to deal with outside than racketting round the house and it might be that she needs a bit more exercise than she's getting. Then an early night tonight - with a bit of luck she'll be so tired she'll crash.

Poor you - it sounds awful.

yawningmonster · 13/01/2008 09:09

Is she often like this, with ds sleep is the first thing to go out the window and the last to come back with any illness or upsetting change in his life. He has always been like this and it is truelly gruelling to spend all night trying to comfort a child who no matter what you do will not even settle into a whimper.

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ScoobyDoo · 13/01/2008 09:15

She has always been a bad sleeper, not just with illness just most nights & when she chooses.

She is a very light sleper.

Did you say out i may need some match sticks to keep my eyes open

Will try & tke her out later but right now i can hardly see, i have no choice but to sit here awake though because i have dd & ds up, if dd would go to bed ds would be more than happy to watch tv while i slept on the sofa.

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yawningmonster · 13/01/2008 09:23

complete sympathies as ds is a poor sleeper also even without the illness. I like the tv/dvd idea while you snooze on the sofa. she may even fall asleep in front of it???

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ScoobyDoo · 13/01/2008 09:25

DD won't fall asleep she won't sleep anywhere but her cot that's when she decides she is going to sleep.

Where do they get there energy? i feel finished off.

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seeker · 13/01/2008 09:26

The thing is, you don't want her to fall asleep on the sofa then wake up full of beans at 5.00 this afternoon!

Sorry - that's why I talked about going out - do try if you possibly can!

nutcracker · 13/01/2008 09:27

Sounds like a refferal to a sleep clinic woulxd be a good idea.

If you take her to the gp's don't be fobbed off. I took Dd2 when she was just over 1 as she wasn't sleeping at all during the day and 2 hours a night was considered a good night for her.

I came away with vitamins for me and a refferal to a psych for dd

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ScoobyDoo · 13/01/2008 09:31

Oh no i won't let her sleep till 5 but i will let her sleep for a couple of hours, she has bags under her eyes & is shattered but for some reason is hell bent on not going to bed.

Maybe it's her cot she does not like & needs a bed? anyone experience of this?

I won't be fobbed off i need help with it, she slept great over the christmas period & was doing well just the odd night not sleeping.

Cargirl from here did give me a number for someone to help with sleep i may have to ring it!

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floppyhat · 13/01/2008 10:36

Does she have separation anxiety at all?I think you are doing a wonderful job, if one more mum tells me at baby club that their DS/DD slept through at 8 weeks I will be up for man slaughter. Don't they realise things like that being said either makes you feel inadequate, poor mother or you have difficult children. When you actually look at your own baby/child they always have their good points. Just hang in their.I did resort to giving one of my twins some piriton in the early evening which calmed them dowm a little so we could teach her to settle herself off in the cot gradually. A good routine in the evening so she had about an hours warning that bedtime was starting really helped. It wasn't about timings it was just about the night time routine starting with a bath then into bed clothes. Some gentle singing/ reading in a very quiet room,lights on mind you. A bottle then a cuddle and into the cot. Me and my husband agreed to do the rountine exactly the same and even my mum who helps out alot was involved so there was no deviation and within 3 days no crying and kicking, evenings are great. Everyone is willing to give you advice and I think it is great if people ask for it.I was so scared to ask for advice in the beginning as i thought it meant i was a crap mum who wasn't coping but i listened to a lot of advice took little bits from everyone that would work for me and hay presto i have my own routine. The baby whisper book saved my life, my sanity and my marriage. I never thought these baby help books would be worth their money but this one as i said literally saved my husband also. these methods didn't work in one night but the author says if you really are committed then over a few days/ week it will work and it did for my family. good luck but don't give in.

singyswife · 13/01/2008 10:39

lots of coffee and diet coke should get you through. USed to work for me. Dd would wake at 3am and that would be her (every night till she was 2).

pirategirl · 13/01/2008 10:55

scooby, my dd was the same, She NEVER wanted to sleep. She NEVER wanted to sleep anywhere else but her cot. Would never drop off in the car, the pram, the buggy.

She was tooalert, too awake and bright. it was shattering. I have to say that I found it terribly hard and i really felt like my child was totally different from any others. It was one of the pressure that lead to my failed marriage.

People never used to belive me that she would not fall asleep in her pram, even at 6 weeks onwards.

I do hope you can find others in a similar sitch, and get some help. My dd is 5 now and still has going to sleep issues. Lots of encouragement into a routine helped a tad, but it was always the fact that she just never got tired that was so mystifying.

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ScoobyDoo · 13/01/2008 14:12

Thanks everyone, well i managed to go back to bed when dp got up, i could not keep my eyes open any longer, howver when i got up about 1 hr ago dp inform's me dd has STILL not been to sleep

She has terrible bags under her eyes & is being very naughty where she is so tired, she just does not want to sleep, it's beyond me, she's mad.

She was such a good baby though, she was a sleeper from a very early age, she was good till about 9 months then we moved house & life became about unstanble & ever since then she has not slept, i think this is where the problem stem's from.

She is also a VERY light sleeper so any little noise wakes her, ds & her share a room but we have to put ds in our bed to fall alseep then dp moves him, otherwise he would wake dd every night!

You know what the difference in my children is amazing, ds is a wonderful sleeper always has been once he's asleep that's him gone for the night, it's always been that way.

Dd though is so on edge, she wakes & screams so loud it sounds like someone is murdering her, she kicks the cot so hard you think it's going to break, she crys whine's & goes on & on & on.

Shall i try Piriton? will they do anything? i think i need to see the doctor because sleep deprivation is no good for me especially the way my mental health is right now.

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ScoobyDoo · 13/01/2008 14:12

Thanks everyone, well i managed to go back to bed when dp got up, i could not keep my eyes open any longer, howver when i got up about 1 hr ago dp inform's me dd has STILL not been to sleep

She has terrible bags under her eyes & is being very naughty where she is so tired, she just does not want to sleep, it's beyond me, she's mad.

She is also a VERY light sleeper so any little noise wakes her, ds & her share a room but we have to put ds in our bed to fall alseep then dp moves him, otherwise he would wake dd every night!

You know what the difference in my children is amazing, ds is a wonderful sleeper always has been once he's asleep that's him gone for the night, it's always been that way.

Dd though is so on edge, she wakes & screams so loud it sounds like someone is murdering her, she kicks the cot so hard you think it's going to break, she crys whine's & goes on & on & on.

Shall i try Piriton? will they do anything? i think i need to see the doctor because sleep deprivation is no good for me especially the way my mental health is right now.

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