21 month old separation anxiety bed time

[Somethingvague]

Hi,

I write this from the bedroom of my 21 month old who is desperate to get up for the day at 4am. For the last couple of weeks, we have been having major issues with sleep.

From about 14 months old, when I stopped breastfeeding, she has slept through the night. But from about 8 months, that was generally only 1 wake up for a feed at night. I have always put her down and said goodnight and left her to go to sleep by herself without fuss.

Suddenly, she will not let me leave her room without screaming and has started waking multiple times per night. I am generally having to wait for about half an hour (at least) for her to be in a deep sleep to leave the room, and then I can't close the door properly or she will start crying again. I have tried going in after 2 mins, 3 mins, but she just gets completely hysterical.

She's otherwise healthy and fine. Takes herself for naps at nursery! I think she has all her teeth. Any tips for this phase?

Thank you

Forgot to add she already has a comforter Teddy.

Now in the midst of a terrible bedtime. Any tips? Thank you

Came on here to write a similar post except my Dd is 23 months. You’re not alone it’s bloody awful. Our dd takes at least one hour to go to sleep (no matter what time we put her up or how long nap was) and often wakes in the night for hours. I feel I’m doing something drastically wrong. Sorry I can’t help you but you’re not alone x

We're going through similar with our 19 month old. It takes ages to get her to settle at night, she screams going into the cot or when we leave the room, and she's waking loads at night after previously being a good sleeper. Hoping for some ideas too!!

Still in this horrible phase! Currently unable to leave her room, as somehow she knows and starts screaming...
Don't want to leave her screaming because it is horrible and also will wake my 4 year old.
Thanks for the messages of solidarity at least!

Hello @Somethingvague Please tell me this phase didn't last long! My 21 month old has started doing the same at bedtime/nap time and I'm worried it's going to become a pattern. Same as you, we've put her down in her cot with teddy for many months with no issues, but the last few days she screams going into the cot and wants me to lie down with her until she's asleep. Did you ever solve this?