I am at breaking point right now. My 4mo is just so hard to get to nap unless in the car. They are my 2nd DC and it is proving impossible to try and meet their wake windows around school drops and pick ups. They are v unsettled from 11pm slamming their feet down endlessly in crib which wakes me, they are then waking for an hour in middle of night after their 1am feed wanting to play, then again from 5am where they will say asleep if dummy replaced but spit dummy every 7-10 mins . I go to bed at 7.30, just after my eldest. I have no evening because I have to choose between 3.5 hour block of sleep before the leg slamming starts or seeing my husband- watching TV etc. I knew it would be like this for 3 months but I don't know how much longer I can sustain this. It feels like such a miserable existence.
I know some of this is likely to be regression but the 5am wake ups have been happening for 6 weeks now and I think it's because they don't get enough sleep in day. Their first nap nearly always falls during school run which is a very short journey. They will fall asleep in car fine but then will wake as soon as I have to take them out of car to walk dc1 in to school. Dc1 is 4 and not old enough to walk from parent car park themselves. So their 1st nap is 10 mins.
Sometimes if im lucky they will go back off to sleep on way home but again, can't transfer out the car without waking. So I have to park a top of road whilst they sleep and start driving again as soon as they start stirring. They can sleep up to 1 hour like this but usually between 25 and 40 mins. If I'm unlucky they won't sleep on way home and I'm then totally confused about when to offer next nap. They end up having 5 or 6 naps a day. They won't sleep longer than 30 mins in their cot. They used to manage 40mins at 3 months and twice they slept 1 hour. I feel like I spend my whole life either sat in car so they can sleep or in a dark room trying to get them to sleep, or holding them for a rescue nap as last nap of day. They were averaging 3h of day sleep but the last 10 days it's been more like 2.5h. I feel like I have no time to rest or to get the chores I need done. My eldest spends most of the time either side of school in front of telly whilst I get baby down to sleep or hold them for a nap. I feel like I'm failing at everything for both of them tbh. And now the night sleep is going to shit i don't know how much longer I can do this before I snap. I'm exhausted, on edge about fucking naps all the time, snappy with my eldest and have no energy to play or properly connect with them.
I feel anxious all the time about babys naps because I know that if they are bad that day ill get nothing done and then will also be punished with a bad night from them.
With my eldest naps were also a struggle but at least I wasn't trying to make them work around other commitments and could prioritise them when I needed to. I dont even know what I want from this post tbh. Advice and space to offload I think.
TL:DR youngest can't get into proper nap routine cos of school runs etc. Won't sleep longer than 30 mins in cot. Night sleep now going to shit too.
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Bluepolkadots42 · 16/05/2022 10:57
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